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How to Recover After Knowing Your Depression Caused The End of Your Relationship

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So, I have been depressed for a multitude of reasons, and that was one of the reasons why my ex left me. She was not happy with me anymore. I offered couple counseling and for me to receive more therapy, but she wanted nothing to do with that. How can I forgive myself for causing the destruction of a beautiful relationship due to my sadness?

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So, I have been depressed for a multitude of reasons, and that was one of the reasons why my ex left me. She was not happy with me anymore. I offered couple counseling and for me to receive more therapy, but she wanted nothing to do with that. How can I forgive myself for causing the destruction of a beautiful relationship due to my sadness?

 

Deal with your "sadness" first and foremost- that should be your priority.

Couple counselling would have brought up your depression as an issue- something you yourself cite as a factor in your break up. That's something you have to take care of on your own- and you owe it to yourself to do so.

 

Is your depression actually "situational" as you've framed it, or does it run deeper?

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So, I have been depressed for a multitude of reasons, and that was one of the reasons why my ex left me. She was not happy with me anymore. I offered couple counseling and for me to receive more therapy, but she wanted nothing to do with that. How can I forgive myself for causing the destruction of a beautiful relationship due to my sadness?

 

You didn't cause anything. You just weren't in a state that could offer enough for her. You are not to blame here, and nor is she. What is important for you now is that you improve your state of loving yourself and loving life. Then your loss may have not been in vain.

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My ex and I had a very loving relationship for a year and a half, but I was experiencing issues in regards to my sexuality. I wish I was a woman. This has affected deeply for the last few weeks of our relationship. My ex was supportive of me, but she could not handle my depression. Also, I have always felt inadequate despite the fact that people have viewed me in a very positive light. I experienced bullying throughout my childhood which always lowered my self esteem. I guess it is a factor of both.

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Sorry to hear about what happened and what you are going through.

 

Get yourself straight and good. maybe she will come back and take a look for a second chance.

 

She showed her true colors and obviously did not love or care about you that much...

 

Sorry for the hard truth. I too went through a similar situation.

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We had a bad fight and she broke up with me due to that, but it really hurts knowing that I was always there for her. She went through a very bad period in her life which I will not get into, but I was always there to protect and to care for her. It just is so painful knowing that in a months time she has already moved on with someone else. She says she is so much happier with him. Was the year and a half we were together worthless? Was all the love and affection I showed her even through my depression futile? She actually told me she was very happy with me about two weeks before we broke up.

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You need to work on yourself now, if you have issues on your sexuality then of course it could be a problem for her. Take this time to understand and decide who you are.

 

My ex and I had a very loving relationship for a year and a half, but I was experiencing issues in regards to my sexuality. I wish I was a woman. This has affected deeply for the last few weeks of our relationship. My ex was supportive of me, but she could not handle my depression. Also, I have always felt inadequate despite the fact that people have viewed me in a very positive light. I experienced bullying throughout my childhood which always lowered my self esteem. I guess it is a factor of both.
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We had a bad fight and she broke up with me due to that, but it really hurts knowing that I was always there for her. She went through a very bad period in her life which I will not get into, but I was always there to protect and to care for her. It just is so painful knowing that in a months time she has already moved on with someone else. She says she is so much happier with him. Was the year and a half we were together worthless? Was all the love and affection I showed her even through my depression futile? She actually told me she was very happy with me about two weeks before we broke up.

 

 

Unfortunately with women whatever was last week does not matter.

It's how they feel now and that's how they work.

 

yesterday is yesterday and today is today with women. how they are wired.

 

All the "good" you thought whould have been banked does not really matter with women

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