If she doesnt respond to one message

[johnpennington]

I reconnected with this girl I went to elementary school with and i'd like to date her or at least reconnect and become friends again. we were friends a loooong time ago. we're both in our early 20s now. I added her on facebook and we had a little over an hour long conversation from about 12:30 in the morning to about 2 in the morning. The conversation was running smooth and friendly. she asked me what ive been doing with myself etc.. eventually I told her it was good talkin to her and we should catch up sometime. I said it as a statement rather than as a question. Basically, the end of my last message to her was "it was nice talkin to you. we should catch up sometime, dont be a stranger." she read the message and never responded. Friends told me that its the internet and you cant take a cue like that so meaningfully. "Just because it says she read a facebook message and didnt respond doesnt mean she doesnt like you." They basically told me to keep talking to her. So even though she didnt respond to the one time I said "we should catch up sometime",she's liked my facebook statuses somewhat frequently since then and i would think-- if she was creeped out that i asked her to hang out, why would she still associate herself with me? Maybe she wasnt creeped out or maybe she wasnt totally disinterested? Should I start another conversation with her? What are your opinions? I can say personally that if there was a girl who I thought might be interested in me and I had no interest in her at all, I wouldnt associate with her at all. I wouldn't Like or Comment any of her statuses. Again, what are your opinions? Should I have a normal conversation with her and after a few conversations, maybe ask her to hang out again or for her number? Thanks.

Edited January 3, 2014 by johnpennington

[deathandtaxes]

Just send a message saying 'Wanna catch up over a beer?' and go from there.

[Versacehottie]

Yes i think your friends are right. Ask her out to do something specific at a specific date and time on a better channel--phone or at least text. If someone asked me, "hey you want to hang out sometime" and i said "yeah, sounds fun", it doesn't really mean that we are going on friday at 9pm. So if you don't try to pin her down on the specifics then it's just some vague thing in some random part of the future. Your situation sounds good so far. Good luck!

[AntiSocal]

The reason she didn't respond is because

 

A. she is just as nervous as you

 

B. You didn't actually ask her out. You said bye. Then you said "lets catch up sometime" you guys were already catching up! Lol

 

Majority of girls aren't gonna make the first move. You gotta ask her on an actual date. And i wouldn't ask her out over facebook either. I would ask for her number. Then ask to have a phone conversation. Keep the phone convo light and fun THEN ask her to hangout and get off the phone asap.

 

If you ask for her number/a phone call and she says no/ignores you/gives excuses then you pretty much have your answer. If she gives you her number chances are she wants to meet up.