CrystalCastles Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I think texting is nice for some forms of communications -- "On my way," "Running a few minutes late," "See you at 6?", "Have a great day!" etc... but I honestly do not understand why anyone would want to use it for full on, drawn out conversations when it is so much easier just to call. I really can't stand it how nowadays wherever you go -- restaurants, train, sidewalk, wherever -- people have their nose buried in their smartphone and are pecking away at the keys. Ugh. Very well said. I also only text if I need to establish plans, or if I'm running late, or if I have a quick question. It's boring to have some long drawn-out chat over text which prevents me from focusing on what I'm doing because I feel obligated to answer my phone, or else the guy on the other end thinks I'm not interested. Carrying out such conversations is a chore. Nothing beats face time! :love:
bolase Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 I often take a while (hours, or perhaps a day) to respond to a text or Facebook msg from a guy that I am into in the early stages, because I wind myself up a little in my head and want to give a great and thoughtful response, so I wait until I have time to do that.. But I realise that's probably not necessary, it's just something I do, I can't seem to let go and text the person straight back unless it's very simple ie logistics. 28 female and sort of shy here... Then again, that might be a signal of a guy being not right for me. I am tinder and snapchat friends with a guy who I've always wrote straight back to with confidence bc we seem to have the same sense of humour and be on the same page..hopefully we will meet one day
nomadic_butterfly Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 Let me ask you, Do you feel that a person who takes a long time to reply back to a text message, shows an indication of low interest? Thoughts? PS - Keep in mind that this thread assumes that the main form of contact between two particular people is text. Its 2014, so we can save the "why dont you just call them?" stuff. Depends on the person. If they are an avid texter, then yes. If they are like me, no. I don't care if it's old school texting is way too impersonal and meant for brief convos or when you are in a place you can't talk; not because you are too lazy to pick up the phone and call like an adult. I tell guys straight up from the beginning I am a horrible texter. Last thing I need is to set the precedent to where people wanna have 100 texts back and forth, especially about serious topics better discussed via the phone or in person. So yes, if a person is all into technology and a text-a-holic slow replies shows disinterest. If someone rarely texts you, but actually calls you and/or makes plans to see you FACE TO FACE more than text then they are still into you. Everything doesn't have to hinge on texts IMO.
ana0pera Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 i hate how some people use texting as a game. like i know a person got my message but they don't respond when i ask them a question. and then i don't want to text again until i get a response because i don't want to come off as overbearing or clingy. if i have my phone on me and i get a text from a person, i always respond right away unless my response is going to open some sort of floodgate and I am short on time/energy. with this in mind, i don't send any texts that might elicit such a reaction from the recipient. It is extremely frustrating when a guy you've built a rapport with all of a sudden can't respond to a simple text and even if he hasn't lost interest, it feels like he did and causes damage. I've gotten to a point in my life, finally, where I am closing the chapter and saying NEXT when this happens. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted January 5, 2014 Posted January 5, 2014 It depends really, if it's a standard text then you have no idea what's going on at the other end and they could have a million and one things going on that are more important than texting you back. Same with whatsapp, they could pull their phone out to read it and not have time to reply. I'm a busy person too and I can't always text back straight away. However, when I'm interested in someone, somehow that all goes outta the window. My best friend always gets a reply, while some other friends I often read a message and then forget to reply for like a day or two. We all do it to one another because our friendships don't rest on uncomfortable closeness, if we aren't asking a question or need to know something in particular we will just reply when we get chance or when we want to, which is absolutely fine by me as none of my friends would be the sort to get pissy if I didn't reply to a text 'on time'. The guy I'm dating at the moment, I can't wait to hear from him, and to reply to him. So I guess it is an indicator of interest level. But it is also related to how they use their phones in general and some people might just not be into texting at all with anybody. It would really put me off if somebody couldn't handle the fact that I don't always text all day every day! I am not tethered to my phone, I'll reply when I am ready to. The big drawback of whatsapp is that you can see if someone has read your message, so there is very little privacy in that respect. I know you can turn it off but I enjoy seeing that others have read mine so I stick with it. Not that I would message over and over again 'are you there?' 'what's up?' 'did you see my message?' like some guys have: INSTANT TURN OFF
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