bigfoot875 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I am 22, have never had a girlfriend or dated. I go to work and currently get paid minimum wage, and I go home and spend time with my family. I did poorly in school and eventually couldn't complete all my credits in high school, because I was homeschooled for a year and somehow the papers were lost. I never was really great at face to face communication. I had stuttering problems at school, and I took a speech class in elementary school to help me enunciate more clearly. Despite me getting better, I still had severe anxiety problems when I did presentations. I only had 3 real friends come into my life. I spent most of my days playing games, playing piano, and talking to people on the computer instead of interacting in the real world. I understand now, that I have made some really bad choices... Since I don't hang out with people much, I don't know what is acceptable and what is not acceptable. My mom taught me manners, but I understand things change, and I don't know if the same rules and manners apply today when you go on a date as yesterday, when things were a lot different. People in school always thought I was weird and my behavior was odd, and that I didn't talk to anybody. Whenever I tried to talk to people, they always told me to shut up and turn around. Whenever I read a book, they told me to stop reading. They told me that I would never get a girlfriend. Luckily those days are over, and they didn't really prepare me for the real world. I finally came across the idea of multiple streams of income. So despite me working a minimum wage job, I'm trying to get an investment account set up so I can make money while I sleep. I hope eventually I will be able to move out of my parents house and start my own family. Few people ever try to initiate a conversation with me. I am somehow perceived as boring and uninteresting. Never was funny, always interested in serious topics. I was always passionate for hobbies. Was a musician involved with classical music. I turned vegan 2 years ago. I can't even find anyone like me. I am so different.
the_entertainer1 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 The world's a big place! Perhaps you just have to look harder to find someone like you. It's cool you play an instrument - personally, I love musicians (ok - so classical, not so much. But I still think it's cool! My brother is a classical musician too.) My question to you is: do you think you're boring and uninteresting? It doesn't sound like you are. I just think you need to find people who are interested in similar things to you. Look for clubs or groups that are associated with your interests. If you can afford it, travel. Overseas travel always changes people. I'm a 24 year old girl and this is what my friends and I find attractive in guys: - confidence - good manners - assertiveness - kind-heartedness - someone who will love us for who we are - stability (someone who can provide for us emotionally - and, ideally, financially - even though we're capable of providing the latter for ourselves). Hope this helps. Good luck!
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