GG3 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Do you feel obligated to give someone a reason if you weren't interested after one date? Or do you just say nothing if they keep messaging you online after the fact wanting to know what happened? (I did not sleep with him or anuthing even close. No kissing either.)
Phantom888 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Just say you had a good time, but no chemistry. Be polite and honest. This is totally acceptable. 6
winny Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Yes, if you have met them once, and you find them a good person but you are not attracted to them, tell them so politely. If they did something before/during/after the date, which pissed you off, so you do not want to continue, then I don't think you are obligated in anyway to answer. 1
BikerAccnt Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Is this someone you had asked out? Or they asked you out originally? Normally, if I've asked someone out, and don't ask them out for a second date while still on the first one, I don't bother to say anything. Normally, I haven't had anyone write me to ask why not. I guess they just kind of figured it out. But yes, if someone were to write and ask why I never followed up with them, I would tell them politely that though I enjoyed the time (even if you didn't you don't tell them that!) but that I didn't see things progressing any further. If I've gone out with someone more than once, and then decide it's not going to progress, I never fade, I always call and tell them. Never..ever..do the fade.
Secret Advisor Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Curious about the actual reason you wouldn't be interested after one date.
henderson14 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Realistically, no one ever sends a response if they aren't interested after one date from a dating site. It's not necessary. They will get the point. Apparently he has not and is a creeper.
JennHenn Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 If they specifically ask you, I'd say reply. They might have left the date with a genuine belief that things went well, and so now might be confused as to why you're not replying. I don't think it would necessarily be bad of you to not reply, but I just think that if they are looking for an answer, it would be nice to give them one. If they don't seem too bothered, then no need
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