Frank2thepoint Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Well I asked her if she was happy and she said no and that it was nothing I'd done or hadn't done or anything like that. I enquired more and she said it was honestly just her and she had trouble with commitment so she'd rather be friends. That's the way it is now and now she doesn't seem to mind texting me or talking to me at all, I still don't understand why she ended it with me. Take this as a positive thing. It hurts because you wanted to be with her, but knowing the truth will help you move on, heal, and become stronger. My advice is to limit contact with her. At least until you get over her. You can keep her as a friend in the long run, and maybe in the future your paths will cross, but keep moving forward. Happy hunting.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 A technical term for what I call the honeymoon is limerance. It is a strongly chemical passionate feeling that is the head over heels can't get enough of them "love". Every couple goes through this in the beginning. 'Limerence' makes the heart grow far too fonder - USATODAY.com A real good article on distinguishing love from limerance is Is It Love? Or Limerence? | Happen Magazine So this is the actual term for what I sometimes feel for a girl after two or three dates and I scare her off by telling her I like her. Good looking out bro.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Yes. Depending on which expert you ask, limerance is either: Just the universal first stage of romantic love and all couples go through it together when both of them feel it. OR An abnormal and dysfunctional state of mind if it is not a mutual feeling. I belive the first option is the best one. Read anything by Helen Fisher she talks about love and "chemistry" in concrete scientific terms. Whereby one can be either suddenly knocked out and feel a "spark" with someone ... or a spark can occur after knowing someone for a while if conditions change somehow.
ae86drift Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Seem like you have a crush on her friend. that's why you texting her friend, girls can tell LOL
soccerrprp Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 She's passively aggressively trying to get you to end things so she doesn't have to. Edit: sorry should have read whole thread first The best friend thing is totally weird too. Totally against girl code. I wonder if they were trying to get you to step over the line so shed have an excuse to end things. I'd just cut her off babe. She sounds flakey and manipulative. Move on and find someone sweet I like this EmilyJane. Some people will find different ways to sabotage a relationship w/o openly ending it themselves. Passive aggressive is right on here, if true. The thing about this is that the gf isn't blaming you for anything, so she may have simply found someone else more to her liking. I wonder if she was okay with you texting her best friend b/c she was already out the door and didn't care what you did.... 1
EmilyJane Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 I like this EmilyJane. Some people will find different ways to sabotage a relationship w/o openly ending it themselves. Passive aggressive is right on here, if true. Thanks. I figure it's either that or some sort of PA punishment for the emotional response? She clearly still likes talking to him so it's not that she doesn't want him in her life. It's all just very odd and far too much drama to subject yourself to OP. Its only going to get worse from here on out. Good luck xox
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