Mr. Hustle Posted January 7, 2005 Posted January 7, 2005 When do we as people not mind being tied down? You know, When I say tied down, I mean when do people not want to do the things that their significant other would label as being Promiscuous? At what point and time in our lives, or what do we need to “Figure out “ before we want the quiet life? This question puzzles me I am a 21yo male and just cant find the woman that doesnt want to party and do other promiscuous things. At what point does this women realize that the night life cant provide what I have her and her child. Or maybe the question is when do I realize that, Ya my heart is broken but she is not right for me. Im being stron with NC (3 weeks) but I still miss her. Answers would be greatly appreciated. This should be a good post.
iceisles Posted January 7, 2005 Posted January 7, 2005 This thread should see some good activity. I think the desire to not mind being "tied down" just evolves naturally and comes at different times for different people. A lot of things may play a role in this, such as our jobs, our social situation (friends, etc.), finances, or just general emotional state. As I understand it, women generally want to settle down earlier than men, though it sounds like you have had problems finding such women to date. I know they are out there, most of the complaining how most guys just want to party or hang out with their friends. Lol. I think we all reach a stage in our lives where we become ready to become "tied down." I am at that stage now (I'm 25) but can honestly say that I only got to this point within the last year or two. I've realized that I'm not getting any younger and really would love to meet and ultimately marry the woman of my dreams. As for your ex, keep sticking with NC. It's rough, but it works.
Pendawn Posted January 7, 2005 Posted January 7, 2005 There's no simple answer I'm afraid. Some people NEVER feel ready to settle down and are always seeking that excitement they feel they get from living fast/always moving on to new things/new people. Other people never really bother. I didn't go out drinking or clubbing as a teen, I got together with my bf on my 18th birthday. And though I liked to go out with my female friends to dance and whatnot, it was only once in a while and that satisfied me. I had no desire to be out being with different guys etc. We were together 11 years and now I fancy a little fun but if another guy comes along that i like, I'll be hapyp with teh settled quiet life again. I don't know what it is that makes some peopel sleep around but from what I've soon, it's often when people aren't happy with themselves and are looking for external sources of feeling worth. Sad to say though if someone is being promiscious it may not be something they need to figure out it may just be that you're not the person they wnat to settle down with, and sadly there's not much you can do about it.
Author Mr. Hustle Posted January 7, 2005 Author Posted January 7, 2005 Like I said Im 21 and its not so much that I want to be tied down or her either, It's that some of the things these women like to do is not what you would prefer if you are in a relationship. I took this womans kid in as my own, and she has the nerve to tell me that I need to grow up. I wasnt the one that had the kid, but she cant see that partying isnt going to fullfill her like I did. She's smart though she goes to one of the highest reguarded schools in the country for free. I guess we are at different phases in our life, Like you said. not to get off of the first question,( I think i'ts a good one.) Do we ever meet up again on that path of life phases?
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