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2+ Months since BU, girl likes me..

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Hi guys, I know I've posted like a madman recently, this forum goes so fast it's hard for me to return to other posts/threads so I just figured I might as well make a new one. I want to see what advice I can grab on the go!

 

Basically my ex and I dated 1.3 years, madly in love, she dumped me because of her own mental/physical insecurities, or at least that's what she led me to believe.

 

It's been 2.5 months since BU and a new, younger (2.5 years younger than me) really nice girl likes me a lot and is persistent when it comes to speaking, texting and hanging with me. My friends think she is a great catch, but I'm having trouble developing an emotional interest. I think about her very often, but maybe habitually to think of her as a possible "replacement." Like it's a mind trick, or maybe I am slowly liking her.

 

Maybe I'm just not ready, if that's the case I know not to lead her on or make it look like I'm ready to jump into another relationship, I WANT to be ready so I can truly move on. But I know I still think of my ex all of the time, but they are different feelings now. They are feelings of hurt and "Wow I can't believe I was with her, I know I can do thousands of times better." At the TIME she was the rock of my life, she was my goddess, and I worshiped her. In the end she totally contradicted all she had said and stood for in the relationship, she bailed when some real and (minor) drama actually happened.

 

Has anyone had this problem? Where they are slowly making progress with their NC and being completely removed from their exes life, a new person comes in and it's hard to appreciate their awesomeness?

 

Love this site and you guys by the way! So many brilliant minds on here!

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Meh, give it some time. You sound like you like this new person a little bit. As time passes, you may find things you really like about this new person. Don't completely write off what could be a good relationship because of a past thing.

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