AvaLennon Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 So I'm not sure if this is the appropriate forum but I couldn't figure out where else to ask this question. My boyfriend and I broke up a couple months ago. He broke up with me and it was a fine break up. Yes I was hurt but we remained friends. A couple weeks ago we got into a fight about our break up thanks to some nosy friends. We haven't really had much contact since the Sunday before Christmas. So on Tuesday I went to my gyno and was informed that I had an incomplete miscarriage. What that means is I miscarried (not I did not know I was pregnant and yes my period was wacky etc.) but my cervix stayed open and my uterus had fetal tissue still present in it. My question is do I tell him? I'm really not looking for support I just feel like he has the right to know. I'm even considering just shooting him a text instead of being dramatic about it with a phone call. He doesn't even have to respond I just think he should know. Thoughts?
David87 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 So I'm not sure if this is the appropriate forum but I couldn't figure out where else to ask this question. My boyfriend and I broke up a couple months ago. He broke up with me and it was a fine break up. Yes I was hurt but we remained friends. A couple weeks ago we got into a fight about our break up thanks to some nosy friends. We haven't really had much contact since the Sunday before Christmas. So on Tuesday I went to my gyno and was informed that I had an incomplete miscarriage. What that means is I miscarried (not I did not know I was pregnant and yes my period was wacky etc.) but my cervix stayed open and my uterus had fetal tissue still present in it. My question is do I tell him? I'm really not looking for support I just feel like he has the right to know. I'm even considering just shooting him a text instead of being dramatic about it with a phone call. He doesn't even have to respond I just think he should know. Thoughts? If it's his baby then yes you should tell him.
TylerDurdenn Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Thank you for the informative post. No I wouldn't tell him. 1
Haydn Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 NO. you dont need to. So I'm not sure if this is the appropriate forum but I couldn't figure out where else to ask this question. My boyfriend and I broke up a couple months ago. He broke up with me and it was a fine break up. Yes I was hurt but we remained friends. A couple weeks ago we got into a fight about our break up thanks to some nosy friends. We haven't really had much contact since the Sunday before Christmas. So on Tuesday I went to my gyno and was informed that I had an incomplete miscarriage. What that means is I miscarried (not I did not know I was pregnant and yes my period was wacky etc.) but my cervix stayed open and my uterus had fetal tissue still present in it. My question is do I tell him? I'm really not looking for support I just feel like he has the right to know. I'm even considering just shooting him a text instead of being dramatic about it with a phone call. He doesn't even have to respond I just think he should know. Thoughts?
Author AvaLennon Posted January 2, 2014 Author Posted January 2, 2014 Thanks for the responses. I am fully aware I do not need to tell him and that nothing will come of it. But I feel like he should know. I'm afraid that in the near future (and this is very likely) that we will begin talking about and be friends like we were before the altercation and I'll have this secret and it'll really eat away at me.
David87 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I thought you were pregnant, sorry. Don't tell him. And don't be friends with him, it will be hard for you to move on and heal. 1
deathandtaxes Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Even if you are being totally genuine he is going to interpret an attempt to reconcile or even get back with him. As OP is the dumpee, the ex-bf will in all likelihood see it as an attempt at manipulation or emotional blackmail. OP - stay NC and don't tell him a thing.
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