Haydn Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Once i was my friend. Hope you doing ok. Very cool Haydn:D
AnyaNova Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I'll share a little method I use when I feel like you: Have you ever seen the movie "La Vita Bella"? It's about a father and his son in a concentration camp. The father tells his son they're actually participating in a contest and that they can leave anytime they want. This makes the kid endure a lot of pain. Whenever I feel like I don't want to live anymore, I try to look at life this way. I get one chance to participate in this competition and I am free to give up anytime I want. And that's exactly why I won't give up. Bongiorno princepesa (or however you spell it). Great idea. When it got hard I took it is a challenge to see if I could make it through and I did. I know now that I don't want my ex back, that everything he did made it clear that I could never trust my heart to him again. Unless he's been in a pretty long amount of therapy. Not to say I don't have my own issues, I do, but that is not the point here. The point is, is that I am over him. My life, as wretchedly painful as it seemed after our last meeting, is back to normal. You will get there too. It just takes time. Consider that as painful as it is, there is no downside to waiting. There are huge downsides to acting impulsively, that you might miss a great life that is out there. You can always do it later. You can never take it back! Your life is worth more than your ex! No matter who she is. Hang in there and work through this. You may at the end of t, discover how much richer your life is when you recover.
pickflicker Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 (edited) A response from the OP would be nice. I hate these "I'm going to off myself and then I don't acknowledge people's concerned responses" threads... Edited January 3, 2014 by pickflicker awkward syntax 3
legion113 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 You could also watch "Grave of the Fireflies". The anime movie...yes classic.
legion113 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Once i was my friend. Hope you doing ok. Sure am, too bad you're across the ocean, you sound like you'd be fun to hang out with. Looks like you've gotten over your down day..good. 1
StyleOnEm Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 All I gotta say is, Man upppp, son. If you're that depressed go get some medication for that. Relationships end all the time. Everyone you know has had an ex before (95% of the time). Be thankful you weren't married with 3 kids to this girl. She would've taken the kids and the house, and probably your porsche too. Point is, people have been in much worse situations than you and came out on top. Learn to handle your emotions better. It'll be a good growing up process. And guess what? It takes grown ups to make relationships work. 1
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 It's perfectly normal to feel like this. A lot of people do because you are going through a hard time right now. I hate all this "man up" or "you're being stupid" crap. People are just inflicting more pain on this poor gentleman. I am so empathetic to people in a crisis like this. It's a serious thing, it's not for attention. He is seeking advice, screaming silently for help and you think it's okay to just shun him and minimize his feelings? A thought can become this harboring demon that takes over your mind. Tread lightly with people like this. This person needs compassion, not "tough love". I've been in that spot you are in OP, almost every night. I look at all the RX pills I have and how my life is my choice to do with what I want. I can simply leave right now, but then what? What happens after that? Or I can stay knowing that things will get better if I allow them to naturally, if I work hard for it. Think hard before you do anything. Think about those who love you. Think about your future and how you will be happy again. And remember this pain...it's all in your hands...you have control over how to deal with this pain. You might not have had control over what happened, but now you have control on how to handle what happened. You will have to deal with these emotions every day and it's your choice to either let it define you/become you or to move on to bigger better things and learn from it. Consider reading the book, The Noonday Demon, it's a beautiful insight into depression. I've just started it. Hang in there, you aren't alone. 2
ponchsox Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 My suggestion would be to find a church and learn the truth about salvation and God's grace.
organizedchaos Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I've had enough . I'm depressed . I miss her crazy . All I do is wake up , and check my phone every 5 minutes . I have nothing in life to look forward to . i don't feel like living anymore . you have all heard my story . I have posted here many times . maybe I should end my life . That way I will never break NC . I'm done . Everything is so hard . i love her so much but everything is falling apart for me Worst idea ever.
StyleOnEm Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 It's perfectly normal to feel like this. A lot of people do because you are going through a hard time right now. I hate all this "man up" or "you're being stupid" crap. People are just inflicting more pain on this poor gentleman. You can hate it all you want, but that's part of the reason my friends always come to me for advice especially after their girlfriends cheat on them and when they're feeling very depressed about life. They get babied all the time by everyone that hears their story..."Aww there there, everything is going to be alright, you deserve better etc etc"... they are tired of hearing the same thing from people. And it doesn't "hit" them because of that. I know because I've been there myself. One thing about me is I don't sugarcoat things. I tell it straight how I see it, and apparently it seems to have an impact on people. I wouldn't say it inflicts more pain on anyone, it simply wakes them up.
David87 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 And guess what? It takes grown ups to make relationships work. I like this ... well said.
BlessYourCottonSocks Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 You can hate it all you want, but that's part of the reason my friends always come to me for advice especially after their girlfriends cheat on them and when they're feeling very depressed about life. They get babied all the time by everyone that hears their story..."Aww there there, everything is going to be alright, you deserve better etc etc"... they are tired of hearing the same thing from people. And it doesn't "hit" them because of that. I know because I've been there myself. One thing about me is I don't sugarcoat things. I tell it straight how I see it, and apparently it seems to have an impact on people. I wouldn't say it inflicts more pain on anyone, it simply wakes them up. I'd have to disagree since I've been in this boat before. The only thing it wakes up is the demon in my head. Being cruel and saying the person is overreacting is just uncalled for, and makes it worse (maybe not for you, but for others). It makes the person feel like it is wrong to feel the way they do and it enhances their pain. Empathy is what people in a state of harm need. Everyone reacts differently so that is why it is imperative to handle each person differently. What works for you, might not work for the OP. Be there for people, remind them of happiness, remind them they deserve better and they will get through this. Not to tell them to man up, stop being a wuss and move on. Christ.
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