krista28 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 theres this guy ive been talking to for over a year. we have been friends, but havent seen eachother in a long time. we went to highschool together. problem being he lives far away from me. one day i said to him that he should visit me..and he said he wasnt gonna be around here for awhile. he said the times he was here and wanted to hanggout i was unvailable. but truth is...he wanted me to go to our highschool reunion and i didnt want to. so...we had been talking like every day...lots...i had planned to go out to where he lives to visit, and stay with him ( my best friend lives in the same town as him). so....he told me he wouldnt do long distance the other day and that there was no us..after i asked him to do long distance. i asked him if he was sad i didnt want to visit him he said no i havent seen you forever. it doesnt affect me what soever. he said that if i was ever in the same town as him or that if he was here theres no reason we shouldnt meet up. i disagreed. and i cut him off i said that i didnt feel the same way about him anymore. to add to this i had told him everything abou tmy life in the last year and he said something to me like you get mad when guys dont want to date you but thats life deal with it. i donno...hes just so cold and heartless...saying there is no "us" blabla...and crap like that. i am really hurt...we havent spoken since yesterday and i plan not to talk to him ever again as a new years resolution. how do i deal with this...will he ever try to talk to me again. I feel so stupid and dumb like delusional. how do I pay him back for doing these games. ingoring him? I know its childish I just wanna get him back for playing these games. what will work...im over it now..but it doesn't seem fair. will this at least work, ignoring him? I told him once I liked his daughters name..and five days later he put it in a text the long version of it to try to get my attention. I donno....I feel defeated? should I just stop talking to him? I have so far...its a new year..new me.
Phantom888 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Stop talking to him and ALL men for now. Try to establish yourself as a strong single woman. Treat yourself well. Exercise often, and eat well. Make yourself physically and mentally healthy. Why go through all this drama and feel bad? Try to enjoy life without drama. When you are ready, the perfect man will enter your life. Don't settle for less.
Author krista28 Posted January 2, 2014 Author Posted January 2, 2014 I agree phantom that's the plan. i just want to make him miss me..and have regreta
winny Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 You cannot make anyone miss you. Accept it. Why do you want to waste your time on someone who clearly doesn't want to do anything with you?
deathandtaxes Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I agree phantom that's the plan. i just want to make him miss me..and have regreta No no no no no. No game playing. This is more harmful for you than it is for him. He's being straight up honest with you about not wanting to do a long-distance relationship. Why give him heck for that? Am I missing something?
Author krista28 Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 your missing something cuz he was stringing me along and letting it go further than it should. I wanna make him feel as bad and dumb as I do.
deathandtaxes Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 your missing something cuz he was stringing me along and letting it go further than it should. I wanna make him feel as bad and dumb as I do. No no no no no. You are still giving him POWER over you. Forget him. You can't make him feel anything. Maintain NC. Forget this guy. What you have in mind, trying to make him feel bad, just makes you a game player. Be better than that. Doing that kind of stuff to people has deleterious effects on YOU.
Author krista28 Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 Thanks you are right. I have had no contact with him. I'll show him I'm better than those games he likes to play.
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