k100danny Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 after seeing my ex on new years eve, having a brief conversation and then a few exchange texts I (the dumper) have to finally admit that it's over, i remember being at this stage before with a ex. basically i removed her from facebook ect and her sister and close friends a few weeks ago so obviously that hasnt been a problem. the thing is she doesn't have a protected twitter account or instagram, now i will admit i have had a quick look a few times over the last couple of weeks and i know she has done it to me as she has mentioned seeing certain things but I am now at the point where i actually wouldn't know what to say if she got in touch it feels like we have exhausted conversation and im actually kind of dreading it as i dont want it to start anything up again. there have been a few points when we haven't been in touch for a few days then i will hear from here and it kind of knocks me back, we had 'THE TALK' and both said we would love it to go back to how it was but a lot has happened and we don't feel it could and we need to stop speaking now. I got a very different vibe off her on NYE especially when she started texting after seeing me but i was friendly and didn't really want to get into any relationship talk. Its now been almost to days and i am actually scared to look, i don't want to know whats going on and i also kind of don't want my phone to recieve a text. I know this obviously doesn't mean you're over someone as you wouldnt care either way if you saw or heard from them but i feel it's a step in the right direction, I think every day that goes by without contact makes it harder to get back in touch because what do you say? so eventually it will go and i will start to not worry. sorry not looking for advice just a little way to relive some tension.
jessiej Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 i know exactly what you mean! my ex dumped me about 3 months ago, after a 3 year relationship. I tried for about a week to get him back and have huge long conversations about our relationship and how we could fix it, but he wanted nothing to do with me. I went NC for a while, but a few weeks ago I had to go and get some of my stuff from his house, which was so awkward because I hadn't seen him in like 2 months, and after I left he was texting me and it just felt weird. I totally agree with the whole everyday you don't talk, it makes it more easier to talk to them and it almost seems awkward if you do, at least for me. So much time has passed I feel like I don't even know the person he is anymore, and I don't think I would want to talk to him again, because like you said, what do you even say? But hopefully that is a step in he right direction, because I feel like I am very slowly moving on, although I do have my hard days. I deleted him off facebook a few days ago, and he texted me today asking why, and I simply told him I no longer want him in my life. It's hard, but it's just something you have to do. If you feel like you don't want to talk to your ex, then don't, it'll make the healing process so much easier. 1
Author k100danny Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 Well i got a reply and i haven't looked at it. I know it can't do any good and it is time to let go as im putting myself through the ringer really. I wished i hadn't broken the NC but even if i do look i will not reply. we both deserve to be happy now and although i can't see me actually moving onto another person for a long time the thought of not being bothered by it and thinking of it most moments of each day is making me look forward to that point.
mtnbiker3000 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Well i got a reply and i haven't looked at it. I know it can't do any good and it is time to let go as im putting myself through the ringer really. I wished i hadn't broken the NC but even if i do look i will not reply. we both deserve to be happy now and although i can't see me actually moving onto another person for a long time the thought of not being bothered by it and thinking of it most moments of each day is making me look forward to that point. Delete it without reading it...
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