Phantom888 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 My woman and I are approaching 8 months. Our kids get along great, and we spent New Year together as a family. We have been looking at rings recently, and are planning our lives together. In the last several weeks, I notice she gets emails from a "George Calderon" frequently. I never snoop but often times she would check her email while we are sitting together, and I just notice the same name over and over again. She glances, but doesn't delete the emails. She just puts away her phone as if she didn't want me to see it. It was making me anxious. We are both 39, with kids, and completely see a future withe each other. I don't think she would be dishonest with me. But I know she would not want me to see any emails from her ex-BFs because she knows that it would hurt me, even though she never responds back to greetings from men she dated before me. She told me a couple of guys put her name on their "rotation schedule" and contacts her every 2 months just to see if she were available. It's totally tacky and desperate, so she never even bothers to reply. She actually tells me everything because she understands that I am working on my jealousy, and she really cares about my feelings. But this George Calderon writes her several emails a day.....I didn't know how I should react. So finally this morning I asked her, "who is George Calderon? Why is he emailing you so frequently? I don't mean to be possessive, but if a girl emailed me this often, I would tell her to stop." She replied: "I don't know a George Calderon..... The only emails I get multiple times a day are from "GOOGLE CALENDAR" and it reminds me of my schedule. I glance at it, and I put it away because I know what I wrote. See? You can read my emails if you want." I feel like such an idiot. All this time I was worried for nothing. She is nice enough to not make me feel bad, but I feel horrible. We are going on a camping trip tomorrow with the kids, and I feel I disappointed her right before our big trip. She was never mad about it, but she was worried that I was keeping my anxiety inside when I should have asked her when I first noticed something. She often asks me, "who is Michelle? Who is Lori?" when she glances at my email screen, even though she knows I would never cheat on her. I should have done the same.... Damn.
BikerAccnt Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I'm sorry you were worrying about nothing. It's good she's not mad at you an isn't ribbing you about it. She sounds like a good catch. But thanks so much for the afternoon laugh. The way things are going at the office today, I definitely needed it. Not to make light of your plight but... That was funny... 1
Grumpybutfun Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 This could be a by product of LS. So much cheating is exposed on this site that it must subconsciously leak into our psyche. My wife is completely transparent but I always jump mentally to affairs when guys at work or my buddies tell me about their relationship troubles. I have to rein in the suspicion and acknowledge to myself that I need to not open anymore posts on the cheating,infidelity or OW/OM forums. Honestly though I am having a little chuckle at your expense. A more practical application might be to get your eyes checked. G 1
regine_phalange Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Hahaha! Sorry, I didnt mean to laugh with your pain. But if I was your girlfriend, I would tease you until the end of the world about it 1
MrCastle Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 (edited) Just to clarify, I'm laughing at Google Calendar being read as George Calderon. This could be a by product of LS. So much cheating is exposed on this site that it must subconsciously leak into our psyche. My wife is completely transparent but I always jump mentally to affairs when guys at work or my buddies tell me about their relationship troubles. I have to rein in the suspicion and acknowledge to myself that I need to not open anymore posts on the cheating,infidelity or OW/OM forums. Honestly though I am having a little chuckle at your expense. A more practical application might be to get your eyes checked. G Agreed. Too much of this place is bad for the psyche. Edited January 2, 2014 by MrCastle 1
anne1707 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 You daft b*gger! Have you made an appointment for an eye test yet? 2
Zahara Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 George Calderon = Google Calendar...I can see how your eyes could play tricks on you! This is so funny...if I were her, I would have laughed about it. I think you're beating yourself up over nothing. We all get insecure, anxious, etc. when in a relationship...point is you asked her at some point WITHOUT snooping and going through her phone. Next time if you have an issue, communicate it. 1
DorkBreakfast Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Haha! But seriously, glad the situation resolved itself. 1
MidwestUSA Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 You had me worried. Weren't the Calderones the bad guys on Miami Vice? My first thought was that she was part of a major drug cartel! But thanks for the laugh. 3
SJC2008 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Emabarrassing moment but you'll get over it. You don't come accross as the controlling type so a "hicup" every now again is understandable and it seems like your woman feels the same way. Looks like you've got yourself a catch:) 1
GemmaUK Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Aw! That's kinda cute! I take it all is OK now though and no problems? This is your karma for looking over her shoulder... 1
Els Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 ROFL. Seconding the suggestion for an eye test. Seriously, don't beat yourself up. We live and learn...
krista28 Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 google calendar lol...well i guess my only suggestion is that youll learn to trust her more in time.. if you are together for a few years etcetera...i wouldnt rush into marriage...really get to know her first...make sure ur a fit...and i would get over or work on the jealousy thing before you get married. its important to totally trust the other person in order to get into something like marriage. the google calendar thing is funny though. dont be too hard on yourself, people do cheat all the time. not sayin she is but its just the world we live in. your sight might be slightly off tho lol just saying..best of luck!
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