What should one do when in love but afraid of commitment?

[andreap]

It has already been one year with my girlfriend. I love her very much. However, sometimes I feel like I want to meet other women. I have not done anything for respect to her. But the other day for new year's eve at a party, there were so many gorgeous women, that I wanted to be single again. I dont know if those are only fantasies that are messing with my mind, but I am afraid that I will commit more and still have this urge to meet other women. When I see my girlfriend, I see my best friend. I can talk to her for hours, I can be myself. But in the sexual side of things, I dont feel the urge to have sex with her. I like it, but I am not crazy for it. However, she is really all over me, she is basically the one that ignites the sexual encounters, not me. That is puzzling to me.

Edited January 2, 2014 by andreap

[d0nnivain]

How old are you? If you are still young (< 25) you may want to sow some more wild oats but before you break it off with your GF understand she might not be there when you get back.

 

 

If you are more mature, use some positive self talk to get yourself to snap out of it. Yes, the person you meet might be gorgeous but so is your GF. Yes they might be interesting but so is your GF. You also don't know what secrets the new person may be hiding. Everybody looks great at first blush but you won't know for sure until you get to know them. You already know the "bad stuff" about your GF & you still like / love her. Remember that.

[DorkBreakfast]

Well put, Donn.

 

 

Remember that the grass always SEEMS greener on the other side of the fence.

[andreap]

thanks guys!