What 2 do if you're in a relationship when you could be moving down the line?

January 2, 2014

When I started dating my ex, I was a year away from graduating college. Once I graduated there was a very good chance that I would break up with her and move back home and look for a job.

Ideally I wanted to stay with her till I left if I did end up leaving. We had not talked about what I wanted to do once I graduated so I assume she had no idea I was considering eventually breaking up with her.

We had only been together for six months so I didn't know the proper time to tell her what I was considering. I was planning on talking about it with her about a month or two before I graduate. I was afraid that if I talked about it too soon she would have broken up with me right away because it meant that weren't going to be together "forever." Of course there also was a chance that I could just stay where I am now. We had never talked about the future and I think we were just playing things by ear, which I was perfectly fine with.

When is the right time to tell somebody something like that if you bring it up at all?

Another thing I'm worried about now is what would I tell a girl I'm starting to date if I could be moving in six months? I absolutely do not want to be single from now until June and I'd probably need another month till I feel ready to date again. So I could possibly be in a relationship from February until June. Would that be fair to whomever I end up dating?

January 2, 2014

You are over-thinking SD. Cross that bridge when you some to it

January 2, 2014

I think the ethical thing to do is to let them know that you may be leaving after graduation. You don't need to present it in a 'we may break up' or 'what our future holds as a couple' context if you don't want to, just tell them the facts (you plan on moving home after graduation). From then onwards, everything is fair game as they have all the information they need to make a decision by themselves.

January 2, 2014

Well, you're being kind of selfish don't you think.

What would have happened had your ex not broken up with you and you sprung this "hey guess what, I'm moving - we can't be together anymore" on her?

Pot meet kettle?

You need to be upfront from day one and just enjoy some commitment free dating.

January 2, 2014

If you KNOW you're leaving, tell the person from the start so they can decide if they wanna get invested in an R with a firm expiration date. That said, how into this girl were you if you were planning a break up already. You're now mad she didn stick with you 6 more mos just to get dumped by you?

January 2, 2014

If you are dating 6 months, and you are planning to break up with her 6 months later when you plan to move, that's pretty crappy, imo.

I think you should be honest about hoping to move, and that would open up a conversation about each person's hopes for the direction of the relationship. Hiding information like that so that you can keep her longer, and then dump her later, is using her.

January 2, 2014

You are over-thinking SD. Cross that bridge when you some to it

That's exactly how I was planning on handling it. But now that I have to start over from the beginning again I'm not sure.

I think the ethical thing to do is to let them know that you may be leaving after graduation. You don't need to present it in a 'we may break up' or 'what our future holds as a couple' context if you don't want to, just tell them the facts (you plan on moving home after graduation). From then onwards, everything is fair game as they have all the information they need to make a decision by themselves.

That seems better, to tell them that I could be leaving. It's not unheard of at all for people to leave when they graduate college especially if they are from out of the area.

So far I don't even have plans to move back home, but it's a strong possibility.

Well, you're being kind of selfish don't you think.

What would have happened had your ex not broken up with you and you sprung this "hey guess what, I'm moving - we can't be together anymore" on her?

Pot meet kettle?

I wouldn't be moving until June if I do move. I would have "sprung" it up on her around April if we didn't have a talk about what I was planning to do. And even then I'm still not sure what I'm going to do once I graduate.

You need to be upfront from day one and just enjoy some commitment free dating.

How is commitment free dating different from normal dating? Do people only date expecting to marry? I certainly wouldn't talk about future plans with a girl.

January 2, 2014

If you KNOW you're leaving, tell the person from the start so they can decide if they wanna get invested in an R with a firm expiration date.

That's the thing, I didn't know I was leaving then, and I don't even know now.

That said, how into this girl were you if you were planning a break up already.

I was extremely into her and whenever people asked me what I was planning on doing once I graduate I would always tell them that I planned on staying here because that's where she was. But then I would always think that there was a chance I'd move back home. I'd expect I would have been completely in love with her then. And maybe the thought of moving wasn't something I would even consider.

Right now my mom is actually living in this part of California so that made it easier for me to say that I would stay. But she is strongly considering moving back to our home town and once that happened, the only person I'd have here would be my GF. I've been down in SoCal for about 5 years and I'm starting to miss my family, I only see them twice a year.

So no, I wasn't planning on breaking up with her, but it could have happened.

You're now mad she didn stick with you 6 more mos just to get dumped by you?

Yes I am mad that she didn't stick with me for six more months. I'm very upset that she ruined Christmas and New Years for me. And I was looking forward to spending Valentines Day with her as well. I wanted her to stay in my life for as long as possible.

I wouldn't consider breaking up because I'm moving away actually dumping her. It would be the natural end to the relationship. She's only 22 and I highly doubt she expected to marry me. Frankly I'd much rather have a relationship end on good terms due to a life change then having it end with a fight or being suddenly dumped like I was.

Putting it another way, she is starting nursing school fairly soon. If she was going to go to a nursing school out of state I would want to stay with her till she left. I certainly wouldn't consider it her dumping me if we broke up when she moved away.

Edited January 2, 2014 by somedude81

January 2, 2014

That seems better, to tell them that I could be leaving. It's not unheard of at all for people to leave when they graduate college especially if they are from out of the area.

So far I don't even have plans to move back home, but it's a strong possibility.

Yeah, just tell them this - that you might want to move back home. It's better to make the 'moving' part explicit, because it's also quite common for people to stay in the town they graduated in, as colleges often serve as a middleman for recruiters. You don't need to discuss the implications on your R though, unless they prompt you.

How is commitment free dating different from normal dating? Do people only date expecting to marry? I certainly wouldn't talk about future plans with a girl.

Not everyone dates expecting to marry (or have a LTR), but many do.

January 2, 2014

One thing I want to bring up, is that I think she may have broken up with me because she may have believed that I wanted to marry and have kids with her.

For some reason during the break up talk she mentioned my age and then said it didn't matter to her, there was obliviously something in her head. Maybe she thought that because I'm 32, that I'd want to have kids soon and that thought of being with me the rest of her life freaked her out. She also knew that she was my first girlfriend and I had been single for a long time so maybe she thought that I thought I was done with dating and had found my "one."

If truthfully telling her that I had no intention of marrying her, would have prevented her from dumping me, then I would have brought it up.

But then again, can a guy even tell a girl that he has no desire to marry and probably wouldn't want to in the future?

January 2, 2014

But then again, can a guy even tell a girl that he has no desire to marry and probably wouldn't want to in the future?

If that is how he feels, he is ethically bound to tell her if she brings it up. Especially as some women would make the mistake of assuming a 32 year old man to be at least somewhat ready for marriage.

If she doesn't bring it up, well, it's your call. Some may say that you should tell her anyway, but I think it isn't necessary unless she asks.

January 2, 2014

A lot of assumptions about what she might think and do, and very little communication. Why not just talk about things?

Real relationships require opening up and communicating. That means being honest with each other without trying to figure out what is the best way to spin things in order for them to go the way you want them to go. It's unbelievably selfish to keep plans to yourself because you fear she'd break up if she knew your plans.

January 2, 2014

Don't invent problems. Figure them out when they arise. What happens if you get your dream job close to where you are now?

Some relationships do have "expiration dates" because they are tied to life stages & don't survive the transition from high school to college or college to RL. Others do. You can't know until the move is more concrete & you have specifics.

Unless of course since you are already thinking of breaking up, & have already decided your relationship is over which is a different story.

January 2, 2014

I would think this kind of thing would come up fairly normally in a conversation when the question arises about what you plan to do when you graduate. Are you job hunting both back home and where you are now? Just say that. The reality is that you may have to move somewhere you aren't even considering right now in order to get a job. You can just say that you are exploring options in X, Y, and Z. Anyone remotely familiar with the job hunting process will understand that sometimes it isn't completely up to you.

So no, I wasn't planning on breaking up with her, but it could have happened.Yes I am mad that she didn't stick with me for six more months. I'm very upset that she ruined Christmas and New Years for me. And I was looking forward to spending Valentines Day with her as well. I wanted her to stay in my life for as long as possible.

As long as possible...while it was convenient for you. You wanted her to stick with you for six more months so you could dump her if you decided to move back home. This just sounds so douchey. I remember the thread you had going when you first started dating her, when you talked about dumping her to move back home when you graduated. You were talking about that outcome before your relationship had even begun. IMO, not a great way to start a relationship. Maybe she somehow sensed that you had one foot out the door. A lot of the things you've posted seem to indicate that your relationship with her really wasn't that serious -- i.e., seeing each other only 1-2x a week, no "I love you," you hadn't met her friends, you didn't spend Thanksgiving together, etc. Who knows what else.

I wouldn't consider breaking up because I'm moving away actually dumping her. It would be the natural end to the relationship. She's only 22 and I highly doubt she expected to marry me. Frankly I'd much rather have a relationship end on good terms due to a life change then having it end with a fight or being suddenly dumped like I was.

Breaking up with someone because you are moving away is dumping them. It might sound like a nicer reason to dump them, but it is still a dumping and would still hurt. Your relationship didn't end on bad terms, either -- you are the only one who is getting irrationally angry at her. She, quite maturely, explained to you that it wasn't working for her and ended things. You can't get mad at her over that. It's not her fault. That's why people date -- to find a person they want to spend their life with. Was she supposed to keep dating you when she was unhappy because it might ruin your Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's Day, or whatever other holiday or life event is coming up next? This is how adults end relationships.

But yeah -- you are really putting the cart before the horse here. Find a job, find someone you want to date, see how the first 5 or 6 dates go, and then you can worry about whether or not you are going to move.

January 2, 2014

If that is how he feels, he is ethically bound to tell her if she brings it up. Especially as some women would make the mistake of assuming a 32 year old man to be at least somewhat ready for marriage.

If she doesn't bring it up, well, it's your call. Some may say that you should tell her anyway, but I think it isn't necessary unless she asks.

And she never brought it up.

I haven't been in many relationships, but I'm pretty sure people don't start asking questions about marriage and kids till they are past the one year mark.

The only real talk we had about those things was that she didn't want to have kids till she was done with nursing school and well into her career, like around 25.

A lot of assumptions about what she might think and do, and very little communication. Why not just talk about things?

Real relationships require opening up and communicating. That means being honest with each other without trying to figure out what is the best way to spin things in order for them to go the way you want them to go. It's unbelievably selfish to keep plans to yourself because you fear she'd break up if she knew your plans.

How do you talk about these things?

We communicated all the time but no, we didn't specifically talk about our future plans. All I had were assumptions and guessing what the other is thinking.

I probably should have told her that I might be moving once I graduate and maybe she would still be with me now.

As for me being selfish and us not communicating. Don't forget that she kept it quiet for three weeks that she was unsure about the relationship. Eventually there came a point where she made up her mind to leave me and then she started to actively lie to me.

Don't invent problems. Figure them out when they arise. What happens if you get your dream job close to where you are now?

Then I would just stay where I am now.

That's why I'm not sure what I should tell a girl if I start dating in the near future.

Some relationships do have "expiration dates" because they are tied to life stages & don't survive the transition from high school to college or college to RL. Others do. You can't know until the move is more concrete & you have specifics.

That's exactly what I was thinking. Maybe this relationship would have ended if I moved. Or maybe it would have ended once she started getting busy with nursing school and ended up not having any time for me.

Unless of course since you are already thinking of breaking up, & have already decided your relationship is over which is a different story.

We broke up a months ago.

I was wondering about the future with her if she didn't end it, and what I should do with a new girl.

January 2, 2014

I would think this kind of thing would come up fairly normally in a conversation when the question arises about what you plan to do when you graduate.

We just never had that conversation. We talked about my school a lot and she knew that I was finished soon, but we never talked about what I planned to do after.

Are you job hunting both back home and where you are now? Just say that. The reality is that you may have to move somewhere you aren't even considering right now in order to get a job. You can just say that you are exploring options in X, Y, and Z. Anyone remotely familiar with the job hunting process will understand that sometimes it isn't completely up to you.

I would look for a job here and back home. And your right that I could end up moving to neither.

Exploring options is a good way to put it.

As long as possible...while it was convenient for you. You wanted her to stick with you for six more months so you could dump her if you decided to move back home. This just sounds so douchey.

Why wouldn't it be convenient for her too?

I remember the thread you had going when you first started dating her, when you talked about dumping her to move back home when you graduated.

I said that?

Then I always had the thought that I may end up moving back home. It was always a possibility.

You were talking about that outcome before your relationship had even begun. IMO, not a great way to start a relationship.

How many times do I have to keep saying that it was just a possibility? I seriously do not have any idea where I'm going to be in six months.

Maybe she somehow sensed that you had one foot out the door. A lot of the things you've posted seem to indicate that your relationship with her really wasn't that serious -- i.e., seeing each other only 1-2x a week, no "I love you," you hadn't met her friends, you didn't spend Thanksgiving together, etc. Who knows what else.

Ha!

The seeing each other only twice a week was because of her. It's all she really had time for. I would have loved to see her every day. Her work schedule really got in the way of our relationship. That plus the distance between us.

I would have liked to meet her friends but the opportunity never came up. She never invited me to anything where her friends would be.

We didn't spend Thanksgiving together because she was going to be at her grandmothers house, two hours away from where we live. Knowing this and that my Dad kept bugging me to see him for Thanksgiving, I went on my trip, fulling expecting to see my GF for Christmas and New Years.

As for telling her "I love you," since she cited one of the reasons for dumping me because she thought I liked her more than she did, and she felt guilty about that; saying that I loved her, probably would have made her break up with me even sooner. Unless she would have magically fell in love with me as soon as I said it.

So no, I absolutely did not have one foot out the door.

Breaking up with someone because you are moving away is dumping them. It might sound like a nicer reason to dump them, but it is still a dumping and would still hurt.

So if both people talked about the future, told them that they might be moving, had a full discussion about the others opinions, it would still be dumping?

Your relationship didn't end on bad terms, either -- you are the only one who is getting irrationally angry at her. She, quite maturely, explained to you that it wasn't working for her and ended things. You can't get mad at her over that. It's not her fault.

I believe it ended on bad terms because she suddenly dumped me without any warning or discussion whatsoever. She actually lied to me for at least a week before she dumped me.

The equivalent would have been me telling her, that I'm moving back home in a week. And then refuse to talk to her about it beyond the initial conversation.

Yes she did give me her reasons, but we didn't have a conversation. She basically said some things to me, I wasn't able to respond and then she left. She refused to answer any questions I had for at least two weeks. So yes it was mature of her to dump me in person but everything leading up to and beyond that was immature.

Add that to the fact that she refuses to see or speak to me on the phone, it doesn't sound like we ended things on good terms.

That's why people date -- to find a person they want to spend their life with.

So everybody who is dating is looking for their husband or wife?

Was she supposed to keep dating you when she was unhappy because it might ruin your Christmas, New Year's, Valentine's Day, or whatever other holiday or life event is coming up next? This is how adults end relationships.

I don't even know if she was unhappy. She never gave me any signs! I don't know what the hell she was thinking and everything appeared fine to me. I've read all sorts of posts about what girls do when they want to end a relationship and she didn't do any of it.

Obviously she was unhappy because she ended it, but I don't have a clue why.

But yeah -- you are really putting the cart before the horse here. Find a job, find someone you want to date, see how the first 5 or 6 dates go, and then you can worry about whether or not you are going to move.

At this point, I'm not even 100% sure that I'll be able to graduate in May.

So I think the steps are, need to find someone I want to date, go on 2 or 3 dates, and then tell them that I could be moving?

January 2, 2014

How do you talk about these things?

We communicated all the time but no, we didn't specifically talk about our future plans. All I had were assumptions and guessing what the other is thinking.

I probably should have told her that I might be moving once I graduate and maybe she would still be with me now.

As for me being selfish and us not communicating. Don't forget that she kept it quiet for three weeks that she was unsure about the relationship. Eventually there came a point where she made up her mind to leave me and then she started to actively lie to me.

It's not difficult to start a conversation on the topic. "Where do you see yourself a year from now?" "What do you hope to do after graduation?" Whether dating or riends, these seem to be normal topics.

There is argument for you both being selfish, but having doubts for weeks before getting the nerve to break up is very different from keeping plans to move quiet for months while she potentially gets more and more attached. Her timetable for breaking it off sounds reasonable to me: honeymoon ended, she abruptly lost interest, and ended it fairly directly. And--she's really young. You can't date young women and expect maturity.

Edited January 2, 2014 by xxoo

January 2, 2014

It's not difficult to start a conversation on the topic. "Where do you see yourself a year from now?" "What do you hope to do after graduation?" Whether dating or friends, these seem to be normal topics.

Yeah it just never came up what I was going to do beyond that I wanted to work in IT. Frankly the vast majority of our conversations were about her, what she wanted to do. She never said that she wants to be a nurse and married to me.

There is argument for you both being selfish, but having doubts for weeks before getting the nerve to break up is very different from keeping plans to move quiet for months while she potentially gets more and more attached. Her timetable for breaking it off sounds reasonable to me: honeymoon ended, she abruptly lost interest, and ended it fairly directly.

Again, they weren't plans!!!!!! I don't even know where I'm going to live in six months. What is so hard to understand?!

Why would she need to work up the nerve to break up with me? Why couldn't she have started to tell me that something was wrong and she wasn't happy? There was plenty of time for us to talk about the things that were bothering her. But she kept it all to herself.

Abruptly losing interest doesn't seem reasonable at all. But maybe it's something that some women just do and that I'll have to accept. For me, I never felt that the honeymoon had ended, if it did there really wasn't much of it because she was always busy.

And--she's really young. You can't date young women and expect maturity.

That's probably the most important part.

While she often did seem like she was very mature for her age, she still was only 22 years old. How she handled the breakup was one such sign. Honestly, based on my time with her, I expected better and it seemed like she turned into a completely different person.

January 2, 2014

We just never had that conversation. We talked about my school a lot and she knew that I was finished soon, but we never talked about what I planned to do after.

I think it's really strange that you two dated for six months and never talked about what you were going to do when you graduated. That just seems like such a normal topic of conversation to me when you are in a relationship.

I said that?

I haven't gone back to dig up the thread, but I remember it that way because I remember feeling surprised that here you finally had a girl interested in you and you were already talking about breaking up with her to move back home. It seemed weird to me. But maybe I misunderstood.

The seeing each other only twice a week was because of her. It's all she really had time for. I would have loved to see her every day. Her work schedule really got in the way of our relationship. That plus the distance between us.

I would have liked to meet her friends but the opportunity never came up. She never invited me to anything where her friends would be.

We didn't spend Thanksgiving together because she was going to be at her grandmothers house, two hours away from where we live. Knowing this and that my Dad kept bugging me to see him for Thanksgiving, I went on my trip, fulling expecting to see my GF for Christmas and New Years.

IMO, these are all subtle signs that she wasn't as into the relationship or treating it as seriously as you were. That she never invited you anywhere with her friends in six months is really glaring. Girls typically want their friends to meet their boyfriends.

As for telling her "I love you," since she cited one of the reasons for dumping me because she thought I liked her more than she did, and she felt guilty about that; saying that I loved her, probably would have made her break up with me even sooner. Unless she would have magically fell in love with me as soon as I said it.

You didn't feel it either, though, which is why you didn't say it? I haven't gotten the impression that she was even the right girl for you -- more that you wanted her because she was around and wanted you. My point is more that within six months, one of you should've gone there. That neither of you did is indicative that the relationship really wasn't working.

So if both people talked about the future, told them that they might be moving, had a full discussion about the others opinions, it would still be dumping?

I think if the other person doesn't want to break up, then yes, it is a dumping, regardless of what conversations were had. You downplay that the woman you are with may want to do something long distance or may want to move with you.

I believe it ended on bad terms because she suddenly dumped me without any warning or discussion whatsoever. She actually lied to me for at least a week before she dumped me.

Bad terms are cheating. Fighting. Hitting. Etc. You weren't engaged or married. You had been together only six months. You hadn't even said "I love you." She didn't owe you a discussion or any warning. (Although, I think there were warning signs there that you didn't see, as I mentioned above.) She told you in person. It wasn't working out. End of story. There was no need for some big discussion. This is how people break up with each other. Long discussions about the reasons why never lead to anything good. She is trying to break free and move on.

Add that to the fact that she refuses to see or speak to me on the phone, it doesn't sound like we ended things on good terms.

What reason does she have to see you or speak to you? She broke up with you. That means she doesn't want to see you or speak to you anymore. Most people don't remain friends with their exes. They move on. She knows that remaining friends with you would do her no good.

Obviously she was unhappy because she ended it, but I don't have a clue why.

Sometimes there isn't really a "why" other than a feeling that this just isn't it. I was very compatible with my boyfriend in college and thought he was a great guy, but at the end of the day it wasn't "it" and I broke up with him after 2 1/2 years. There really wasn't a reason "why" that I could even articulate. I just knew he wasn't the one for me.

At this point, I'm not even 100% sure that I'll be able to graduate in May.

Why? You need to pass that class. Enough is enough.

January 2, 2014

Again, they weren't plans!!!!!! I don't even know where I'm going to live in six months. What is so hard to understand?!

Because it's the basis of this thread, and what you are asking about?

Why would she need to work up the nerve to break up with me? Why couldn't she have started to tell me that something was wrong and she wasn't happy? There was plenty of time for us to talk about the things that were bothering her. But she kept it all to herself.

Abruptly losing interest doesn't seem reasonable at all. But maybe it's something that some women just do and that I'll have to accept. For me, I never felt that the honeymoon had ended, if it did there really wasn't much of it because she was always busy.

It's hard to break up with someone. They get upset, hurt, angry--can be difficult for someone who is uncomfortable with confrontation or hurting others.

And losing interest happens all the time. That rush of new relationship wears off, and she realized she just isn't that interested anymore. This is why most people date a few people before they find a "keeper".

January 2, 2014

And losing interest happens all the time. That rush of new relationship wears off, and she realized she just isn't that interested anymore. This is why most people date a few people before they find a "keeper".

This is all I can focus on for right now.

I have never suddenly lost interest in a girl. I had never thought a woman could suddenly lose interest in a guy.

I had believed that once a couple starts having sex and enter into an official BF/GF relationship, that they would stay together forever unless they started having fights, one person felt that they weren't appreciated or somebody cheated, or a major life change happened.

None of those happened with me and that's why I'm still shocked that I was dumped.

I understand a girl losing interest after a couple of dates but not once a relationship is in full swing.

Honestly, I thought that she was supposed to have fallen in love with me right after the first time we had sex and I was waiting for to say that she loved me. Four months later and she never did.

Edited January 2, 2014 by somedude81

January 2, 2014

This is all I can focus on for right now.

I have never suddenly lost interest in a girl. I had never thought a woman could suddenly lose interest in a guy.

I had believed that once a couple starts having sex and enter into an official BF/GF relationship, that they would stay together forever unless they started having fights, one person felt that they weren't appreciated or somebody cheated, or a major life change happened.

None of those happened with me and that's why I'm still shocked that I was dumped.

I understand a girl losing interest after a couple of dates but not once a relationship is in full swing.

Honestly, I thought that she was supposed to have fallen in love with me right after the first time we had sex and I was waiting for to say that she loved me. Four months later and she never did.

The honeymoon stage, new relationship hormones make it fun and exciting to date and have sex with a new partner. Sometimes it develops beyond that, and often it fizzles.

January 2, 2014

I had believed that once a couple starts having sex and enter into an official BF/GF relationship, that they would stay together forever unless they started having fights, one person felt that they weren't appreciated or somebody cheated, or a major life change happened.

Why did you think this? Did you truly believe you would be with her forever?

I understand a girl losing interest after a couple of dates but not once a relationship is in full swing.

I think it's probably just as common to lose interest while in a relationship as before you get into a relationship. People break up all the time, for various reasons. You find out more about people as time goes on, things that would not be apparent after a date or two. Some things don't rear their head for months. That's the entire process of dating.

Honestly, I thought that she was supposed to have fallen in love with me right after the first time we had sex and I was waiting for to say that she loved me. Four months later and she never did.

Are you serious? I thought earlier you said that six months was too soon for her to know whether she loved you, so she was full of it when she said that was why she broke up. Now it should've happened a few weeks into your relationship (or whenever you had sex)? Did you fall madly in love with her when you had sex?

January 2, 2014

There is an easy way to make this not be a big problem SD.

If you are in college once again date a woman from the college. She does not necessarily have to be a young one, if you are old enough and depending on the school anyone who's not supervising you is fair game.

The reason I say this is because people go to college to graduate. That at graduation you may move on and not see your best friends of the last many years ever again, or break up with your sweetheart, etc. is part of the social contract of college.

I was in a similar situation, I've written about it a great deal. I really wish we had both handled it by having the kind of conversation you have in mind. That said a break and break up were inevitable at some point one or both of us were going to move far away because the next logical career moves require it.

Even if you truly love a woman you meet between now and June, no one who truly loves you and wants you to succeed would ask you to sacrifice your career when it is so crucial to move when you can right after getting a fresh degree. Find someone who is or has been in college and they will understand it much easier, since they are in or were in the same situation, than someone who hasn't.

January 2, 2014

Are you serious? I thought earlier you said that six months was too soon for her to know whether she loved you, so she was full of it when she said that was why she broke up. Now it should've happened a few weeks into your relationship (or whenever you had sex)? Did you fall madly in love with her when you had sex?

Ha ha ha!

I really am confused

Apparently I know nothing about how women feel about love and sex.

I don't know if she should have or should not have known if she was in love with me after six months.

My thoughts are all jumbled and I'm trying to make sense of what happened.

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