margot13 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I feel like I am slowly going crazy. All my common sense tells me to get on with it, get up, go to work blah blah blah. But I drag myself awake and think c**p it starts all over again. Missing, feeling terrible etc etc etc. When on earth does the turmoil stop?? I know we will never get back together so why do I want it so badly still? No contact is easy because there just is none, not even a breadcrumb, why do I want a breadcrumb??? Have moments where I feel good, just to be lulled into a false sense of security, because then smack it is back, that empty feeling of being miserable. What is wrong with me? I am a sensible person, I have an intellect, 2 wonderful children, why is this consuming me?
Haydn Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Hey nothing wrong with you! Its normal to go through this. Takes time before it slowly wears off. We have all been there and sometimes even now i get a little bit sad. But it improves. I have read your posts, you are doing great. Pm me if you feel like. Keep strong and you will be happy again. I feel like I am slowly going crazy. All my common sense tells me to get on with it, get up, go to work blah blah blah. But I drag myself awake and think c**p it starts all over again. Missing, feeling terrible etc etc etc. When on earth does the turmoil stop?? I know we will never get back together so why do I want it so badly still? No contact is easy because there just is none, not even a breadcrumb, why do I want a breadcrumb??? Have moments where I feel good, just to be lulled into a false sense of security, because then smack it is back, that empty feeling of being miserable. What is wrong with me? I am a sensible person, I have an intellect, 2 wonderful children, why is this consuming me? 2
Shefo Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 (edited) I feel like I am slowly going crazy. All my common sense tells me to get on with it, get up, go to work blah blah blah. But I drag myself awake and think c**p it starts all over again. Missing, feeling terrible etc etc etc. When on earth does the turmoil stop?? I know we will never get back together so why do I want it so badly still? No contact is easy because there just is none, not even a breadcrumb, why do I want a breadcrumb??? Have moments where I feel good, just to be lulled into a false sense of security, because then smack it is back, that empty feeling of being miserable. What is wrong with me? I am a sensible person, I have an intellect, 2 wonderful children, why is this consuming me? Hey excuse me but what am I reading here? U just said 4 days ago in the other thread: Great idea. I too decided today that I couldn't wait to say goodbye to 2013, and he is staying in it!!!!! 2014 is going to be a prosperous fantastic year for me too. So happy new year to everyone!!!! So be a strong girl. F*ck him. It`s done and it`s over and it`s in the past! Put all ur thoughts into the most important things in ur life.. ur children. They need ur 100 % attention. Ur past doesnt need ur attention. U need to show them and make them feel that they have a strong mama. Remember.. this year 2014 is all about u. U will not die being alone.. although ur not even alone. I dont know about ur backgrounds and Im pretty sure I cant even compare my ex relationship with ur, but Im also having a HARD time getting over and moving on, but as I did the decision to stop mourning and officially move on on the break off the new year.. it definitely helped me. It has been only three days and I feel much better. Cant even think of contacting her again. Im getting used to the idea that Im single again. Im free and available to see who ever I want now. Not that I want to.. but I know that its an open option. I also feel miserable and shallow momentarily, but as soon as I start thinking of her, I say to my self.. "wow wow.. what are u doing??". So, dont worry. U wouldnt be human if u didnt go thru those feelings, but u need to know that it does and will get better. If u absorb that fact, then ull feel better. And remember, ur not alone. Every minute somewhere, somebody is breaking up. Its normal. Its life. Edited January 3, 2014 by Shefo 1
Author margot13 Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 Hey guys thanks for the response. My story gets more complicated and could do with some advice. Ex is a musician, amazing musician. Sent me a few songs he wrote last night, he always did that..... Then rang me today and admitted that he suffers from depression but never dared to tell me, or couldn't find the right way to tell me. We have only been together a year. I do believe this as his daughter suffers from depression (cuts herself) too. It is genetic he says. He says that he can't cope and wants me to understand it's not me, but is still very much in love with me, but he can't handle life at the moment. As an artist and a sensitive person, I understand the lows people can reach in life. But can someone tell me what to do with this? I believe in people that they are good and not evil :-).. How do I deal with him? Do I disappear. What do men think when depressed? He says that people that really know him are the scariest so he pushes them away. At least I know now why I am going crazy :-) But all thoughts on this are welcome.
flightplan Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Hey guys thanks for the response. My story gets more complicated and could do with some advice. Ex is a musician, amazing musician. Sent me a few songs he wrote last night, he always did that..... Then rang me today and admitted that he suffers from depression but never dared to tell me, or couldn't find the right way to tell me. We have only been together a year. I do believe this as his daughter suffers from depression (cuts herself) too. It is genetic he says. He says that he can't cope and wants me to understand it's not me, but is still very much in love with me, but he can't handle life at the moment. As an artist and a sensitive person, I understand the lows people can reach in life. But can someone tell me what to do with this? I believe in people that they are good and not evil :-).. How do I deal with him? Do I disappear. What do men think when depressed? He says that people that really know him are the scariest so he pushes them away. At least I know now why I am going crazy :-) But all thoughts on this are welcome. If you're ready to deal with a lifetime of that, then know upfront what you're getting into. I personally would fade away. I know it may sound blunt, but life is too short to be dealing with a depressive narcissistic. It's not your job to save him or make him feel better about himself, etc... be a friend but set your boundaries and go from there. Otherwise, IMHO, you're setting yourself up for failure. 1
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