slimmontana Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I was in kind of a long distance relationship with this girl for about 3 years or so. I say kind of because we never made it official as we are boyfriend and girlfriend. She lives in NJ I live in Florida. Yes we were intimate with with each other on a few occasions. Given the fact that we were never official, we always made it clear that if there was someone else serious in our lives that we would tell each other. Mind you I I have known this girl for 10 years. Long story short I find out through Social media she is pregnant. She gets pregnant sometime in August I find out early October. I try to get her to tell me to no avail. My whole thing is we discussed this that if something significant like engagement marriage babies happens in our lives that we would tell each other. Why is she hiding her pregnancy from me? Do I confront her and tell her that I know she is pregnant? I need your insight Thanks..
Solcita2 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I'd just tell her, "oh... congratulations on your baby...." and see what happens.. if she hasn't told you about it, then you're not that good of a friend to her... just a booty call...
d0nnivain Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 You don't ignore it but you do talk to her. You congratulate her on the baby but then ask why she didn't tell you. You also bow out of her life or at least her bed assuming the baby's father is still in the picture. 2
Author slimmontana Posted January 2, 2014 Author Posted January 2, 2014 I'd just tell her, "oh... congratulations on your baby...." and see what happens.. if she hasn't told you about it, then you're not that good of a friend to her... just a booty call... Thanks for your reply. ..it was more than just a booty call...we vacationed together. Even talked about starting our own family. I am a very good friend to her sent her money when she needed it.
Author slimmontana Posted January 2, 2014 Author Posted January 2, 2014 Oh yeah I'm definitely going yo bow out of her life No reason to have such deceptive people in my life. A part of me wants to know why she hasn't told me a part of me doesn't even care.
justwhoiam Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I find out through Social media she is pregnant. Like she's all happy and telling the world she's pregnant or because people made comments about that? You didn't say how exactly you found out. Like the news was on her FB page? And I would assume you're in her circle of friends... but as you are not supposed to read that, I guess not, for some reason. So, what kind of social media? And why wouldn't you know her account on there? I try to get her to tell me to no avail.How did you try? And are you 100% sure she's pregnant? Why is she hiding her pregnancy from me? Assuming she is pregnant, there could be more than a reason why: 1) she might lose you 2) she was not sure if she wanted the baby 3) she doesn't know how to tell you 4) she doesn't feel like telling you how it happened 5) she's waiting for the right moment, or taking time etc. Do I confront her and tell her that I know she is pregnant? I need your insight Thanks.. You should tell her you read XY on YZ. As simple as that. Without adding anything else. Then see what happens. By the way, you made a big mistake. When you really care about a woman, you need to make a stand, not let time go by without nothing happening... You were both living your lives and there was no real commitment about anything. Just some talk.
Author slimmontana Posted January 3, 2014 Author Posted January 3, 2014 Like she's all happy and telling the world she's pregnant or because people made comments about that? I found out through Instagram...I dont personally have an instagram page I have a business one. I dont follow her on Instagram her page is private but I know a couple of her friends so if she comments on their page Im able to see the comments. Someone congratulated her on being pregs and thats how I found out. How did you try? And are you 100% sure she's pregnant? I said is there something you wanna tell me? Are you going through some life changes? She said no and then turned it around on me and asked me Is there something I want to tell her? So she blatantly lied. I am 100% sure she is pregnant I seen pictures of her at another friends baby shower. She is about 5 months along. You should tell her you read XY on YZ. As simple as that. Without adding anything else. Then see what happens. By the way, you made a big mistake. When you really care about a woman, you need to make a stand, not let time go by without nothing happening... You were both living your lives and there was no real commitment about anything. Just some talk. I live in Florida she lives in New Jersey. I showed her I was committed to her through various actions. She said she loved me blah blah blah. The more I think about it the less I want to confront her because obviously she doesnt value me or our friendship why esle would she lie to me? So why should I interact with someone who doesnt even value me enough to inform me of a major life change in her life? It pisses me off because I was there for her numerous times when no one else was even with the fact that I live over 1000 miles away.
Author slimmontana Posted January 7, 2014 Author Posted January 7, 2014 Its taking all the power within me not to give her a piece of my mind. I really really want to tell her how I feel and what I think what she did or is doing is messed up. But a part of me does not want to even give this person the satisfaction of my attention. It boggles my mind how you cannot tell me of all people that your going through this significant change in your life just purely out of respect. I dont get it...I dont get it!
justwhoiam Posted January 8, 2014 Posted January 8, 2014 You should tell her you read XY on YZ. As simple as that. Without adding anything else. Then see what happens. Did you try this?
Author slimmontana Posted January 8, 2014 Author Posted January 8, 2014 Did you try this? Hi Just who I am!! I cant bring myself to do it. I feel like that would be letting her off the hook. Im going through it emotionally because I was well vested in my relationship with this person. To not tell me such significant news makes me feel like Im not important in their life at all. I feel that any conversation I have with her will probably be the last one ever so I want to get certain things off my chest regarding how callous she was in treating me. @JustwhoIam Let me ask you a question if you knew someone for 10 years dated off and on during those years and you got pregnant and they questioned you about it wouldnt you tell them? Why hide something that they would inevitably find out? I want to address her but at the same time I dont want to give her the time of day
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