SpiralOut Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I went on a date with this guy last month. It went really well. A couple days afterwards, he asked me out to dinner and I said yes. Then he cancelled due to stressful things that happened. The main stressor was a major expense came up and he couldn't afford to go out. He asked to reschedule the dinner, which was fine. I figured, in the meantime why not do something else instead? I invited him to do something free (walk in the park) and he said no. At that point he was responding to my messages and we were chatting, but he didn't want to meet up. I didn't want to be pushy, but the whole thing just seemed weird to me. Finally I asked him if he was interested in seeing me again. He said yes, once "things settle down." I told him to text me if he wanted to meet up and to enjoy his holidays. He wished me a merry Christmas and he didn't talk to me for about two weeks. Tonight he texts me asking me if I'd still like to hang out. At this point, I'm kinda pissed off. I understand that he has a life and that we aren't serious or anything. However, it bothered me that he became distant and weird. Even if he was unable to meet up, you'd think he would still want to chat? I felt like he didn't care too much about keeping me interested in him. Should I see him again? I'm leaning towards no.
spiderowl Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I think I'd be pissed off too, at the implication that we do things on his schedule not a mutual one. He might have had good reason to cancel the dinner for financial reasons, but not meeting you for a free outing seems a bit mean. Leaving it for two weeks before contacting you again is a bit too long for comfort. I doubt I'd trust the guy after that series of events. I'd wonder what else was going on in his life that he wasn't telling me about. 3
Author SpiralOut Posted January 2, 2014 Author Posted January 2, 2014 Okay I miscalculated. It was 10 days of no contact, not 14. Still, that's a bit long. And he was in town for four of those days - the same days I was in town - and he had told me that he wasn't working!! And I told him I had reduced work hours so I could meet him at a convenient worknight time! But he still didn't want to! Sorry but that's too weird for me. Screw him. I just texted him to say I'm not interested.
Author SpiralOut Posted January 2, 2014 Author Posted January 2, 2014 He just texted back "okay take care then." Jackass! I don't think he cared either way if I said yes or no.
Mondmellonw Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Also, he wanted to meet at night, when he clearly has not showed any interest at all.... Nah, douche. Move forward.
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