CalculateIt Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 We're not in a "relationship" since we're both not in a good places personally at the moment. We've both got personal issues that we're trying to sort out. He has told me that he quickly jumped into relationships before and they ended badly. So, he's pursuing relationships more slowly. We don't talk every day, every few days we hear from each other to check up on how we're doing. He is the one that usually initiates conversation. However, there are times when I'd ask how even his job is doing, knowing that it's stressful, he doesn't respond. We've met each other's friends and families. When we're together, everything is great. We go out and he's very affectionate towards me in public. We call each other "babe" and "baby". We started having sex about two months into seeing each other occasionally. After we have sex, he stays awake, talks to me, cuddles with me, and tells me to stay the night. When we sleep together, he is cuddling me and is even holding my hands and kisses me. But, the whole lack communication thing is what's getting to me. I understand that he's not my "boyfriend" per se, but not hearing from him makes me not trust him and it scares me. I want to give him room to breathe. I also understand that we're both trying to sort out our own personal lives hence why we're both trying to keep a distance. But I still feel uncomfortable with not hearing from him, especially when it comes to something as simple as asking about details of the stress of his job. What is he trying to do? Does he genuinely like me and wants to pursue a romantic relationship with me once we're both settled or is he just using me? Am I "crazy" for disliking not hearing from him every day? What do I do?
SunnySide0418 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 (edited) We're not in a "relationship" since we're both not in a good places personally at the moment. We've both got personal issues that we're trying to sort out. He has told me that he quickly jumped into relationships before and they ended badly. So, he's pursuing relationships more slowly. We don't talk every day, every few days we hear from each other to check up on how we're doing. He is the one that usually initiates conversation. However, there are times when I'd ask how even his job is doing, knowing that it's stressful, he doesn't respond. We've met each other's friends and families. When we're together, everything is great. We go out and he's very affectionate towards me in public. We call each other "babe" and "baby". We started having sex about two months into seeing each other occasionally. After we have sex, he stays awake, talks to me, cuddles with me, and tells me to stay the night. When we sleep together, he is cuddling me and is even holding my hands and kisses me. But, the whole lack communication thing is what's getting to me. I understand that he's not my "boyfriend" per se, but not hearing from him makes me not trust him and it scares me. I want to give him room to breathe. I also understand that we're both trying to sort out our own personal lives hence why we're both trying to keep a distance. But I still feel uncomfortable with not hearing from him, especially when it comes to something as simple as asking about details of the stress of his job. What is he trying to do? Does he genuinely like me and wants to pursue a romantic relationship with me once we're both settled or is he just using me? Am I "crazy" for disliking not hearing from him every day? What do I do? This setup is obviously not working for you. Stop sleeping with him. I could not have a sexual relationship woth someone who didn't contact me the next day. It would make me feel badly. Why are you accepting this situation? How do you know he isn't seeing someone else? I think it seems suspicious.. So, you're good enough to have sex with but not good enough to touch base with everyday. I say ... move on. And what's with the you're not boyfriend/girlfriend?? he gets the benefits of being in a relationship but won't give you the title of girlfriend?? Edited January 2, 2014 by SunnySide0418
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