missidk Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I have been talking to this guy for a few weeks now and we’ve hung out a couple time. I really like him, but he seems really defensive when I ask him about social media; instagram, twitter, Facebook, etc… He explained to me that he has an on/off relationship with this girl. He told me that he likes me and that he currently is not in a relationship with the girl and that he doesn’t want any drama. Well, I am very adamant on knowing a person’s social media. In today’s world that is kind apart of getting to know someone. In past relationships I have had issues because of social media such as; cheating, lying, withholding information, etc… To say the least I have trust issues. He is refusing to add me on any social media and blocked me on his twitter and workout page instagram, saying that I’m trying to cause drama, but I am not. It’s so petty but Am I wrong for wanting to know his social media? Yesterday, I was a little tipsy and tagged him on one of my tweets, and now he’s freaking out saying that I’m causing drama. This is my tweet “I turned up way too hard, now I’m missing @_______” He’s making me feel bad because I guess his ex saw my tweet (fyi we don’t know each other nor follow each other). I don’t know what to do. I like him and can probably see myself with him but this mess is crazily weird. Any advice?
BlametheIrish Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 He sounds like a loser. Puts his exes feelings before yours and is definitely hiding something, Plus,he's making you out to.be the bad guy over something that shouldnt cause a fight in the first place. My advice would be for you to.delete his number and find someone who.is worthy of your time.
CarrieT Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Don't go there. You two are obviously incompatible if you have the need/desire to know about someone's social media. Not everyone is like that and just like sexual compatibility, one's life in social media should be compatible as well. You said it yourself: "Well, I am very adamant on knowing a person’s social media." He is not and may never be. For many, the way you are acting about the social media is the very drama button he is looking to avoid. Best to find someone that thinks and believe and acts as you do. This guy is only going to cause you angst and you are only going to bring more un-wanted drama into his life.
Raena Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Don't go there. You two are obviously incompatible if you have the need/desire to know about someone's social media. Not everyone is like that and just like sexual compatibility, one's life in social media should be compatible as well. You said it yourself: "Well, I am very adamant on knowing a person’s social media." He is not and may never be. For many, the way you are acting about the social media is the very drama button he is looking to avoid. Best to find someone that thinks and believe and acts as you do. This guy is only going to cause you angst and you are only going to bring more un-wanted drama into his life. I'm sorry but since when is "ones life in social media" separate from who they are as a person? If the guy doesn't want her to post on his social media pages, won't friend her and gets all upset because his ex saw a tweet she wrote about him then there is obviously more to this story than he is sharing with her. More than likely... that ex isn't really an ex. How in the world would an ex see what he is writing unless he is still friends with and/or following said ex? I'd drop this loser. You've only been dating for two weeks and he's hiding you from his online world? It is kind of soon, but still... if he has nothing to hide, then he wouldn't hide it.
CarrieT Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I'm sorry but since when is "ones life in social media" separate from who they are as a person? Ohmygod, please don't tell me you are that naïve… People are spending way too much time creating an existence on social media that is a far cry from who they are in real life. Have you not heard of Catfish? There are lots of other reasons the OP shouldn't pursue this guy. And I hold with my recommendation to find someone that is compatible with one's beliefs and actions. This guy certainly is not The One.
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