Submisfit Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I know this topic has probably been done to death, but here's my situation. I'm 23, and a sophomore in college. I went to a packed NYE dance party with a group of ~12 friends and 2-3 of their friends that I didn't know. After being inside for a bit, we went outside to cool down, and I got to talking to one of the girls that I didn't know well. We stayed together the rest of the night inside. We went back to a few of the guys's house around 1 for an after party, and she and I ended up going off alone and talking until 4 am. When it was time to leave, we kissed each other. I had to drive a friend home, and at the door she asked the girl I'd been hanging out with something that revealed that she was 18, and a senior in HS. From the way she responded I don't think that she was intentionally concealing it or anything; it just hadn't come up. I really clicked with her, but I feel like it's on the wrong side of the creepy line, and I'm really not sure what the acceptable thing to do in this situation is.
theothersully Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I know this topic has probably been done to death, but here's my situation. I'm 23, and a sophomore in college. I went to a packed NYE dance party with a group of ~12 friends and 2-3 of their friends that I didn't know. After being inside for a bit, we went outside to cool down, and I got to talking to one of the girls that I didn't know well. We stayed together the rest of the night inside. We went back to a few of the guys's house around 1 for an after party, and she and I ended up going off alone and talking until 4 am. When it was time to leave, we kissed each other. I had to drive a friend home, and at the door she asked the girl I'd been hanging out with something that revealed that she was 18, and a senior in HS. From the way she responded I don't think that she was intentionally concealing it or anything; it just hadn't come up. I really clicked with her, but I feel like it's on the wrong side of the creepy line, and I'm really not sure what the acceptable thing to do in this situation is. Don't worry about it. If you last a few years together, you will be 26 and 21. And don't you guys get with every incoming freshmen class? She will be one of those next year.
Author Submisfit Posted January 2, 2014 Author Posted January 2, 2014 Don't worry about it. If you last a few years together, you will be 26 and 21. And don't you guys get with every incoming freshmen class? She will be one of those next year. I don't do hookups or anything like that. Sex is sex though; a relationship requires you to have a lot more in common, and is subject to a whole lot more judgement from family/friends if you're mismatched.
theothersully Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 I don't do hookups or anything like that. Sex is sex though; a relationship requires you to have a lot more in common, and is subject to a whole lot more judgement from family/friends if you're mismatched. sorry, I wasn't clear. What I meant was that she is only one year younger than the incoming freshman class. Keep that in mind.
CrystalCastles Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Nah, it's not creepy or weird. If you were 35, for example and she was 18, that would be weird. 23 is not.
married2school Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 If you guys talked for that long and you really clicked, I really wouldn't worry about a five year age difference. I'm 23, and my boyfriend is 33. While I most definitely wouldn't have been dating him when he was 23, I think the age gap definitely matters a lot less as you get older.
lamaga Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 its not that bad, i am a 26 year old female and the guy i am dating is 21. it works. 1
veggirl Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 It's not weird but moreso just pointless if what you want is a lasting relationship that could lead to marriage. For dating for fun or sex or friends, it's fine. If you wanna settle down though, she's way too young. 1
Author Submisfit Posted January 2, 2014 Author Posted January 2, 2014 It's not weird but moreso just pointless if what you want is a lasting relationship that could lead to marriage. For dating for fun or sex or friends, it's fine. If you wanna settle down though, she's way too young. Hmm. I've heard this, but I'm really not sure that I agree with the idea that young adults can't be in serious, lasting relationships; I was with the same girl from 14-almost 20. I'm not necessarily looking for my next relationship to end in marriage, but I've tried the physical relationship/casual sex thing, and it's really not for me. I need to have some emotional investment there for it to really work.
regine_phalange Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 It's a very good age gap, I think. I prefer younger gentlemen myself. Growing to be a cougar
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