Jump to content

Protocol after a great first date?


While the thread author can add an update and reopen discussion, this thread was last posted in over a month ago. Want to continue the conversation? Feel free to start a new thread instead!

Recommended Posts

Posted

So I went on my first date since ending a two year relationship and it was great. I met this guy and he asked me out for New Years Eve. We went to dinner and movie and to a fireworks show. He was a perfect gentleman throughout; opening doors, paying for everything, etc. I enjoyed our conversations and he seems to have a good personality. After dropping me off at home I told him thanks and that i'd enjoyed myself and initiated a hug. I told him to let me know that he makes it home okay (habit; something I do with family, friends, etc.) and he seemed touched by the gesture. He texted me to say he was home, I reiterated that i enjoyed the date and he agreed that he enjoyed my company and we said our goodnights. So now it's the day after and I want to talk to him (bc I'm really interested) but I'm not sure if I should hold off a little bit and see if he initiates that. He said he enjoyed things and seemed to like me but earlier in the date he commented on me being quieter in person than I was through text messages, etc. I explained that I was shy and I think things picked up from there but I'm still feeling a bit unsure.

 

I haven't done this dating thing in awhile so I kinda wanted some advice on what would be the best plan of action here...

Posted
So I went on my first date since ending a two year relationship and it was great. I met this guy and he asked me out for New Years Eve. We went to dinner and movie and to a fireworks show. He was a perfect gentleman throughout; opening doors, paying for everything, etc. I enjoyed our conversations and he seems to have a good personality. After dropping me off at home I told him thanks and that i'd enjoyed myself and initiated a hug. I told him to let me know that he makes it home okay (habit; something I do with family, friends, etc.) and he seemed touched by the gesture. He texted me to say he was home, I reiterated that i enjoyed the date and he agreed that he enjoyed my company and we said our goodnights. So now it's the day after and I want to talk to him (bc I'm really interested) but I'm not sure if I should hold off a little bit and see if he initiates that. He said he enjoyed things and seemed to like me but earlier in the date he commented on me being quieter in person than I was through text messages, etc. I explained that I was shy and I think things picked up from there but I'm still feeling a bit unsure.

 

I haven't done this dating thing in awhile so I kinda wanted some advice on what would be the best plan of action here...

 

Reach out to him if that is what you want to do. Don't play the game where he has to reach out first. Just do it. He will appreciate it more than you know.

 

Glad to hear you had a nice time.

Posted

I'm going to remember that "call me when you get home" comment.

 

If he doesn't contact you today, you might consider texting him tomorrow. I have no suggestion as to what to say, though.

 

I think if I have supper with a man and am home before 1000PM, I'd like to hear from him before supper the next day if he's interested. If he waits more than three days, I'm probably not going to go out with him again.

 

My own preference is to wait for the man to contact me. More than likely, if I'm interested, I've already made an advance of some kind.

  • Author
Posted

I got in contact with him yesterday and we texted back and forth for awhile. He didn't text me back after eleven so I was somewhat 'concerned' but he texted me early this morning to apologize for falling asleep on me and we've been talking off and on today. Hopeful for a second date soon :-) Thanks for your responses!

  • Author
Posted
I'm going to remember that "call me when you get home" comment.

 

If he doesn't contact you today, you might consider texting him tomorrow. I have no suggestion as to what to say, though.

 

I think if I have supper with a man and am home before 1000PM, I'd like to hear from him before supper the next day if he's interested. If he waits more than three days, I'm probably not going to go out with him again.

 

My own preference is to wait for the man to contact me. More than likely, if I'm interested, I've already made an advance of some kind.

 

Ha, yes, it works well. Gives the opportunity for continued conversation that same evening without you having to 'really' initiate it. Glad to help!

×
×
  • Create New...