cherie88 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I look back at my old posts and I begin to cringe. Its been almost a year since Ive been here and ive been through so much pain. long story short my ex who ive been with for a year cheated on me with a friend of mine and moved on with her and suggested i should do the same, he had shown no remorse what so ever and put the guilt and me. I thought Id never survive this , but to my surprise I picked my self up decided not to fight back and move on with my life, surrounded myself with positivity instead focused on my school, got into modelling and started piano, anything to keep me focused. a year later i found out she did what he did to me, but this time she degraded him, and embarrassed him infront of his friends family and the entire campus. His friends and family are giving him that "i told you so" and he feels completely disgraced, everyone reminding him how im doing better and alot better without him. He came back crawling for forgiveness and saying he realized the hell he put me through how he made me sick, how he made me loose my focus on school, how I shed pounds. My first reaction was kind of a "get lost" attitude and now looking back at it , Ive been through so much and this has ultimately help me to grow. What do I have to be upset about? apart of me however wants me to have him go through the same exact pain I went through. I've made the choice to forgive him but should he even play any role in my life as a friend? I don't know if I should even make the choice to text him new years for new beginnings. I suffer from a guilty pleasure of him suffering 1
Complexus Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I say treat him like a "no loitering" sign. Tell him to move along, once an ass, always ass, because leopards don't change their spots. 2
iworthmore Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 tell him to get lost!!. he cheated on you with ur friend. now he crawling back cuz he's completely devastated. dont be his friend. he dont deserve that. he is using you. u done great by moving on dont ruin it all with contacting him again. be selfish and love your self. u'v been doing great since he left so keep going. karma is great thing when it happens. im so happy for you. u proven something to urself. 1
HeartinPain Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 Thank you for coming back and updating us ! It really does give the rest of us hope that it really does get better! Tell him to keep walking! The trust is broken. I don't see how you can ever trust someone who treated you the way he did. He is looking for his safety net now that he has been left in the dust.
Snipercatt Posted January 4, 2014 Posted January 4, 2014 There's a gross difference between the growth you've accomplished since he cheated on you with your friend and the simple realization that he's experienced. He hasn't grown, or accomplished, since being dumped and he's looking for a soft place to land. I suspect you will find that out and will then realize that this relationship is part of your past, but not satisfactory for your future.
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