nutzo Posted January 7, 2005 Posted January 7, 2005 hello every1, so i am new here but with the same old problems yesterday i met my ex girlfriend yesterday, even though it was just a 2 min. talk since she was in a hurry. so the history is, we have been apart for 1 year now, and were 2getha for more than a year. it was u know. just perfect, everything clicked, even though she was 5 yrs younger. anyway i really loved her and got loved back, you know how it is when all just clicks. so i the past year apart, after she broke up wit me, saying that its not the same way with her anymore, that she still cares, but isnt inlove, we have seen each other for couple of times, goin for coffee, mostly at my suggestion. and then last september we kinda lost contact on her demand, explaining it, that she feels that if we keep on seein each other i might get a wrong idea... so we did. and yesterday it all came back,i just felt like I fall back to where i was, all those feelings. i mean i still got feelings for her, wish we would get back,but i cant be pushin it again, since there hasnt been any sign from her. well that is that, had to get it out. i hope that made any sense
iceisles Posted January 7, 2005 Posted January 7, 2005 It definitely made sense. It is saddening when the dynamic of a relationship changes, but you will have to do your best to accept that you may never be together with her again. One of the worst things you can do is dwell on the past, so try not to do that. As long as you have these feelings for her, it would probably be best if you never saw her again if she sees no future between you two. If you can one day accept being friends (with no romantic sadness, etc.), then there's nothing wrong with that. I am one of the few who believe that you can be friends with exes, though it often takes a lot of time and adjustment. If you think that you will always have unreciprocated feelings for her, it would be best that you try to move on with your life. I apologize if this isn't uplifting advice.
geminni Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 tx for reply. the thing is, i am traditional old romantic guy, even though that can be bad sometimes, so i am wondering if I should on a long term try to get close with her, i mean.even though we broke up, i still think that she is the one ( how pathetic is that ) but anyway...we shall see what happens.
Fritz Posted January 9, 2005 Posted January 9, 2005 Originally posted by geminni tx for reply. the thing is, i am traditional old romantic guy, even though that can be bad sometimes, so i am wondering if I should on a long term try to get close with her, i mean.even though we broke up, i still think that she is the one ( how pathetic is that ) but anyway...we shall see what happens. Nope. Move on. You're not doing yourself a favor by thinking that. I mean, maybe, maybe in the future things change but dont count on it, don't plan for it, just move on and find someone who does "click" with you and the feelings are mutual. You're just setting yourself up for heartbreak.
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