datingnoob93 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Hi, I took this girl out for 3 dates in December and things have moved really slowly, finally got a kiss at the end of the 3rd date but she did agree to see me again for a 4th date. She then went AWOL on me for a whole week and a half in which I texted and called repeatedly and could not get a response. Finally she got back to me last night and sent me this text which was quite blunt and maybe even rude: "hey its me, you keep texting me I told u I was on vacation with family I'll be back 2 weeks" She did not tell me she was going on vacation, and no "happy new year" greeting from her. So now I'm kind of wondering if she'll even want to see me again. In 2 weeks she'll be back just for the start of next semester, and I doubt she'll have time to see me that week. So I'm looking at the very least another date the week after, which will make it a full month since our last date. She also rarely initiates contact with me first and her texts are usually short and blunt. So I'm loosing a ton of momentum, and we didn't have that much momentum to begin with. I'm sure she won't be happy with my clinginess. How should I proceed ? I definitely want to see her again since she is awesome to be around in person, just not over text. I'm thinking I should wait until she comes back, then call or text saying that I hope she had a good holiday and that we should hang out again, but maybe theres a better way to approach this ?
odin673 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I'd forget about her. You messed up by texting/calling her a bunch. 1 text and phone call would have been appropriate, but from the sounds of it you sent her a bad vibe. Damage is done, move on.
Author datingnoob93 Posted January 1, 2014 Author Posted January 1, 2014 I'd forget about her. After 3 dates ? I feel a connection with her now and I think she feels the same way (at least, before she went on vacation). Our first date was awkward but since then she has been great (in person). She has the sweetest personality and looks 9/10. I really really don't want to let her go. We go to the same school but no mutual friends so I don't care about saving face. I just want the best way to salvage this situation.
Versacehottie Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Honestly, it doesn't look good for you. I would give her space and keep your options open. It's about much more than saving face; it's about whether or not you are signing up to move forward with something that sounds really one-sided, all on her terms and where she is not terribly respectful. To respond with the tone she did (when she in fact forgot to tell you she was going to be away for 2 weeks anyway), it seems like she is waaaaay too comfortable being rude and dismissive. I wouldn't respond with that tone to any guy I wanted to move forward with (really for that matter, almost anyone, which speaks to her character overall). And if she continues to see you after responding that way, I think she is just in it for the ego boost.
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