Keenly Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 As I was waking up this morning I was browsing around a few POF profiles literally just for something to read (and sometimes laugh at) while I was trying to awaken from my hangover. I was going off of the "recommended" section, where usually the users are pretty attractive, and are probably put up there based on how many messages they receive. Keep in my mind I have zero intention of messaging, contacting, or meeting any of these girls. (I sort of have already found some one, its just long distance, we haven't met in person yet, and we are not exclusive yet) But she has my full and undivided attention. What I wanted to discuss is of the dozen or so profiles I was reading, 3 of them said specifically "I can be hard to handle at times." Isn't this just Monroe talk for "I can be a huge bitch sometimes and you better learn to put up with it?" Because that's always what I interpret it as. Then I wake up to a facebook post dozens of my friends have shared from a girl they all have as a friend but I don't. It was talking about how she wanted her friends and family to all share her post, that was talking about how she wanted to get one date a week in 2014. She had a list of requirements and standards that actually kind of made me sick. Must pay for all dates Must plan all dates. Must initiate all contact, as she will not initiate any contact after the first, second, or third date. Will not text or talk on the phone before the date. (god forbid you don't want to provide a potentially terrible person a free meal) You must be tall and at least a little good looking (keep in mind this girl is like 300 lbs) There are a few more, but her entire post just made me sick with the level of entitlement, like men should be FLOCKING to her, and would be lucky to get a chance to pay for her date, and the whole post just reeked with it. Anyway, what do you guys think? Passively bitchy dating profile statements? Facebook chain posts begging for dates? What are some things that have made you recoil whilst reading?
deathandtaxes Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Holy queen bitch! So laughable. Looks like she wants a free meal and drinks each and every week. The sense of entitlement is just so funny. How can she live with herself? What a life she must live.
FitChick Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 She is obviously a fan of the Bridget Jones's Diary movies where an overweight, neurotic woman has successful, handsome men fighting over her. Plenty of men on dating websites are like that, with their wish lists. Wishing and getting are two different things.
MrCastle Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 The cost of pussy in the OLD world is way too high. It's depreciating. If it were a stock I'd tell you to SELL! SELL! SELL! 1
somedude81 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Isn't this just Monroe talk for "I can be a huge bitch sometimes and you better learn to put up with it?" Because that's always what I interpret it as. Then I wake up to a facebook post dozens of my friends have shared from a girl they all have as a friend but I don't. It was talking about how she wanted her friends and family to all share her post, that was talking about how she wanted to get one date a week in 2014. She had a list of requirements and standards that actually kind of made me sick. Must pay for all dates Must plan all dates. Must initiate all contact, as she will not initiate any contact after the first, second, or third date. Will not text or talk on the phone before the date. (god forbid you don't want to provide a potentially terrible person a free meal) You must be tall and at least a little good looking Hmm, she must be really hot to believe that she's entitled to all that. She better have big tits too. Still that's a huge sense of entitlement and not somebody I'd want to know. (keep in mind this girl is like 300 lbs) Holy Hell!! There are a few more, but her entire post just made me sick with the level of entitlement, like men should be FLOCKING to her, and would be lucky to get a chance to pay for her date, and the whole post just reeked with it. Anyway, what do you guys think? Passively bitchy dating profile statements? Facebook chain posts begging for dates? What are some things that have made you recoil whilst reading? She should get laughed at till to the ends of the Earth. 1
somedude81 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 The cost of pussy in the OLD world is way too high. It's depreciating. If it were a stock I'd tell you to SELL! SELL! SELL! You mean I should start pimpin? 2
Mrlonelyone Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Wow that FB chick asking for the moon when she's a pebble is just too much. (Are you sure it was serious and not a joke?)
dreamingoftigers Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Sigh. You know what I've discovered in life: If you ask for it, there's some sucker out there who is going to give it to you. I wonder who the sucker is for that girl. 2
Woggle Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Hard to handle is code word for run like hell. 2
dreamingoftigers Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Hard to handle is code word for run like hell. Yeah, generally if a girl has phrases that could be turned into WHMIS symbols in her profile, it's best just to leave the page. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 300 pounds would be hard for me to handle. I've been 300 pounds. When I got married I was probably 10 lbs away from needing a forklift to take me down the aisle. I was pretty easy to handle though. Chocolate fixed everything. 2
MrCastle Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I don't know if I've ever read someone's profile and felt sick about it. If I don't like what I see I don't really give it a second thought and move on to the next. One thing that turns me off is a list of things someone doesn't want vs what they do. "Don't message me if..." One guy had a whole list that even included certain neighborhoods he wouldn't drive to lol. Probably my biggest turnoff back when I briefly tried OLD. Some of the requirements were so trivial it was repulsive. I wonder if those people realize how big of a turnoff it is. Instead of saying "don't message me if," focus on the positive. Say "message me if." Subtle difference, but so much better 2
polynomial Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 there are song lyrics that go "get what i want cuz i ask for it not because im really that deserving of it" 1
bene Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Lists of pretentious and negative statements are a turn-off for me. But downright rude or otherwise ridiculous profiles are a good indicator that this is not the person for me. It would be far more exhausting to discover all this along the way. If people present themselves as a handful before they have even met you, it will probably get worse in real life. As for the girl in OP's post, she will probably not find a guy like this. It's not like she places an order in drive-in and a tall rich handsome man will magically pop up to be her humble servant. Guys, seriously, it is not that easy for women. 1
CrystalCastles Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I have read FB posts asking for gf's before. It was one guy who posted (can't find the post anymore) but he wrote really cute stuff on there and his requirements weren't over the top (he wrote basically things like "must be positive" and "must have a sense of humour", nothing superficial). I don't think it's gross to write that as a status. Everyone single out there is looking for/wanting love. There's nothing repulsive about that, no matter how you go about doing it. There is something repulsive, however, about having such tall demands like your FB girl, Keenly. Man, I would be sick too. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Ok I couldn't resist and had to find this dudes profile. "After being on here for a few months now I felt I had to add this into my profile. I am on a dating website to find someone who I can eventually be in a relationship with. So if any of the following statements applies to you please move on, I prefer not to waste my time. 1. You aren't over your ex yet. 2. If 18 hours of your day are consumed with work, children, etc you're not going to have time for me. 3. You have a serious criminal record 4. You use illegal substances and or are a gang member 5. You are allergic to or do not like dogs 6. You live in DC or Virginia metro area, apparently match is unaware that traffic in that area is terrible and that is not a commute I'd be willing to make on a normal basis" LOL! I wonder how many gang members he's met! I think 1 & 2 should be a given. 3 & 4 you can see where there's been a run-in. 5, makes sense But 6 is just hilarious. Yes, match.com should screen for traffic! Maybe give a points system or a filter? The drop-down list could read: Through what kind of traffic hazards are you willing to go through? 1. Easy, light driving with low to no traffic 2. Moderate drive. 20 minute commute MAXIMUM 3. Willing to go through a traffic jam or two. 4. Freeways and even dirt roads to meet my true love! 5. Don't live on an actual street? It's okay with me. Willing to meet at hike-in, hike-out locations. 6. Willing to go through bad neighborhoods. Baltimore and Detroit conditions okay.(Match does not have any liability for any injuries/robberies/deaths that occur). 7. Okay, it's been over a year since I've been laid. I will drive through Syria with the Star of David painted on my car. With gang members, a nuke and a hamster in my shorts to meet a woman. Any woman. Is your grandmother still available? Tell me how to get past security at her nursing home. 7
Thegreatestthing Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Yeah I use to hate those profiles too,but it always gives me the feeling that they are very pestered and in demand,so I think it elevates them to potential buyers,and denotes high self worth/standards - so it could be a good thing. I personally wouldn't message anyone like that,but then I don't message anyone. I was surprised yesterday to find a lot of women's profiles that said very specfically dont write to me if you are a black man,a few were black themselves. One that said I only like Middle eastern men,I do understand that. I don't know if I've ever read someone's profile and felt sick about it. If I don't like what I see I don't really give it a second thought and move on to the next. One thing that turns me off is a list of things someone doesn't want vs what they do. "Don't message me if..." One guy had a whole list that even included certain neighborhoods he wouldn't drive to lol.
Lady2163 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I think 1 & 2 should be a given. 3 & 4 you can see where there's been a run-in. 5, makes sense But 6 is just hilarious. Yes, match.com should screen for traffic! Maybe give a points system or a filter? The drop-down list could read: Through what kind of traffic hazards are you willing to go through? 7. Okay, it's been over a year since I've been laid. I will drive through Syria with the Star of David painted on my car. With gang members, a nuke and a hamster in my shorts to meet a woman. Any woman. Is your grandmother still available? Tell me how to get past security at her nursing home. Okay, I'm loving that last one... 2
Targetlock Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I've encountered a few of these before, example: Must be, tall, over 5,5, have dark hair, must like having a cheeky spoon at night but needs to back away after half an hour. Cuddles are acceptable, if they lead to sex. Otherwise no. Must be a smoker, and share a passion for vodka and vodka shots. Sense of humour is a must. Must speak fluent sarcasm. Oh and must like playing with my hair whilst laid in bed watching tv. no clingyness is appreciated or tolerated, I go where I want when I want and you do not need to know my every step. Explains why she is on a dating site is suppose, and no i didn't contact her! and those other ones you mentioned are much worse.
dreamingoftigers Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Okay, I'm loving that last one... It actually reminds me of when I very first met my husband ad he told me about how he liked older women. And I joked about setting him up with my grandmother and how she was "really nice but doesn't bake cookies. But she sends money on birthdays and Christmas." He had a pretty good sense of humor and asked "how much money?" Well, I really wasn't expecting to actually MARRY or even date him at that point so a year later he met my grandmother. I teased him mercilessly. Funnily enough, she also sends him money on his birthday. $100. He was raised a Jehovah's Witness so it was actually the first real birthday card he had in his whole life. But I think he would've stopped at option 2 at the drop-down list.
dreamingoftigers Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I've encountered a few of these before, example: Must be, tall, over 5,5, have dark hair, must like having a cheeky spoon at night but needs to back away after half an hour. Cuddles are acceptable, if they lead to sex. Otherwise no. Must be a smoker, and share a passion for vodka and vodka shots. Sense of humour is a must. Must speak fluent sarcasm. Oh and must like playing with my hair whilst laid in bed watching tv. no clingyness is appreciated or tolerated, I go where I want when I want and you do not need to know my every step. Explains why she is on a dating site is suppose, and no i didn't contact her! and those other ones you mentioned are much worse. Is that M30USA's wife?
lollipopspot Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I haven't seen many women's profiles so I can't comment on that. But I have seen men's and one thing that is fairly typical that bothers me is when he lists his desirable age span as something like 10 years below his age to maybe a year under his. I prefer it when someone is willing to consider someone on either side of their age - i.e. 5 years younger and 5 years older. There are some people who are particularly youthful, and want to find someone who fits more into their lifestyle, so I get that. But because it's so common I think it's generally just a fixation on younger women because of aesthetics. 5
Onethirtyeight Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 From my time on OLD the ones I found the best were the women that had a statement like "I know I'm hot I don't you need you to tell me, send me something original". I would usually send them a message that said "you're cold", those profiles never had anything meaningful in them. 1
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