NYC-BigKat Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Yep just yesterday after we got off work early 'cause of new year's eve my boss told me to come into his office to talk. He told me I was a nice person & it was not easy for him to let people go so he asked me to resign right on the spot . He said I wasn't fitting in. This was moments after I asked another girl out at the job & told her how sexy she was & stared at her. I saw her & my boss talking & he kept looking at me so I knew it was my fault again . I have no job anymore & wont have anymore $$ to bother girls on facebook or anything anymore all 'cause a girl cant handle a guy talking to her.
ThaWholigan Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 If ever there was a good time to post that Tom Brady skit, this is it. 3
anne1707 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Depends on whether your understanding of talking to a girl could be interpreted as sexually harassing her. You also say this was another girl at work -have you asked out others at work, telling them they are sexy and then staring at them? 3
darkmoon Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 calling her sexy and staring at her is not that nice, it is cold, lecherous and self-indulgent, a friendly smile might be a better idea next time 3
MidwestUSA Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 She could have at least let you touch her hair before she reported you! 3
GoreSP Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 calling her sexy and staring at her is not that nice, it is cold, lecherous and self-indulgent, a friendly smile might be a better idea next time Yes I agree. But that would be grounds for a warning. Not getting fired. OP, do you have some kind of union, or government organisms that defends workers against this kind of thing?
somedude81 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Did you agree to quit? I think you should go to work the next time you are scheduled. Just stop freaking out girls.
MidwestUSA Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Yes I agree. But that would be grounds for a warning. Not getting fired. OP, do you have some kind of union, or government organisms that defends workers against this kind of thing? 'Another girl', 'my fault again'. Not his first dip into the water here. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Let's change the title of the thread to something more accurate: "I was fired from job 'cause of my inappropriate behaviour." 7
GoreSP Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 'Another girl', 'my fault again'. Not his first dip into the water here. Well to be honest, it depends how he approaches the ladies… I mean, this goes both ways. I don't like men using women's clothes as an excuse to be horny but I don't think it gives us ground to accuse any man of harassment and get them fired for asking them out...
Onethirtyeight Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Was this the first time you did that? If so its kind of bull**** that you got fired for that. A warning would have been more appropriate. Well at least you know why you got fired and can use it as a learning experience. 1
dreamingoftigers Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 If ever there was a good time to post that Tom Brady skit, this is it. https://www.cloudy.ec/v/09b18e827769e 1
Author NYC-BigKat Posted January 1, 2014 Author Posted January 1, 2014 Did you agree to quit? I think you should go to work the next time you are scheduled. Just stop freaking out girls. Yep I agreed to quit 'cause he made it seem like if I didn't he would let me go anyway so I wont go back in. I didn't mean to freak her out. She looked kinda cute & had a cute butt & she kept wearing her shirt unbuttoned so I kept looking & finally told her she was very sexy & wanted to see a movie with her but she didn't answer me & walked away & the next thing I know I see her chatting with my boss & he stares at me & then I get called into the office before the end of my shift to leave 'cause I'm not a good fit now so I know it was my fault & maybe other girls complained before too u know.
FitChick Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 People need to read the OPs other threads on here for the whole picture. I think he should try working from home. 9
Shaun-Dro Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Yep I agreed to quit 'cause he made it seem like if I didn't he would let me go anyway so I wont go back in. I didn't mean to freak her out. She looked kinda cute & had a cute butt & she kept wearing her shirt unbuttoned so I kept looking & finally told her she was very sexy & wanted to see a movie with her but she didn't answer me & walked away & the next thing I know I see her chatting with my boss & he stares at me & then I get called into the office before the end of my shift to leave 'cause I'm not a good fit now so I know it was my fault & maybe other girls complained before too u know. I'm glad you realize you were to blame for losing this job. You're digging your own grave with this behavior. Keep it up.
GravityMan Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 ExpatInItaly and others who expressed similar opinions are right on the money. OP, what you did was clearly out of line and your past history makes it even worse. I think your boss was actually being nice in asking you to resign due to "not fitting in". Most places (especially medium and large businesses) would have you report to HR's office, followed by you being bluntly fired and having security escort you out. Most companies do not mess around with sexual harassment allegations. Nearly all of them will act swiftly and decisively to permanently eliminate the source of the problem from the workplace. Even if that "source" is a well-liked person who has been working there for 10+ years with solid job performance. You have a lot to learn about appropriate conduct in a professional setting, and a lot to learn about interactions with women in ANY setting.
Phantom888 Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 Take this as a lesson. Sorry to hear your loss. Women at office should be viewed as gender-less coworkers. Just don't do this again because some women see this as sexual harassment or even an opportunity to sue the company for $$$!!!
TB Rhine Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 You know that advice people often give about "not ****ing where you eat" in terms of asking out/dating women at work? That advice is especially important for socially awkward men. If you have ANY trouble relating to women, or otherwise observing social graces, in general, work is about the last place you want to be trying to practice those skills, because the consequences of failure go beyond simply having a bruised ego, or going home alone at the end of the night. Also, unless you are literally Brad Pitt (or equivalent), save the "sexy" talk for after you've had a few dates, and/or engaged physically to some extent. Until then, you have no idea how a woman feels about you. And it's crucial for you to know that, because how a woman feels about you is going to strongly inform how she responds to any advances you might make. Basically, if she's interested, you could walk in with a dead cat in one hand and a machete in the other, and she'll think it's just the most charming thing she's ever seen. If she's neutral or thinks you're unattractive but harmless, she'll probably just brush you off and let it drop. If she gets the slightest hint of a weird/threatening vibe (and to women, these two are essentially indistinguishable from each other), you're toast. Her next stop will be the HR office. 2
ascendotum Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 I think your boss was actually being nice in asking you to resign due to "not fitting in". Most places (especially medium and large businesses) would have you report to HR's office, followed by you being bluntly fired and having security escort you out. Most companies do not mess around with sexual harassment allegations. Nearly all of them will act swiftly and decisively to permanently eliminate the source of the problem from the workplace. Even if that "source" is a well-liked person who has been working there for 10+ years with solid job performance. The beauty of union representation is that they would fight for the guy in this situation. Telling a co-worker you find her attractive and asking her out for drinks or to a movie is not sexual harassment. The word harassment means ongoing unwelcome/offensive behavior. Unless he is painting a pretty picture of what actually went down, it does not constitute repetitive behavior and what he did is not offensive. People have asked out co-workers for drinks a million times over the years. People have complimented a co-worker on their look a million times over the years. IDK maybe in the US, making a favorable comment about a co-worker's look or asking to have a drink/lunch/go shopping with them is sexual harassment. While that Tom Brady skit is funny I've seen that crap play out at a few companies I worked for. The unattractive guys did not lose their jobs, but got a warning, which is the way it should be.
lollipopspot Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 This was moments after I asked another girl out at the job & told her how sexy she was & stared at her. Unless you already have a relationship, it's a mistake to tell a woman at work she's "sexy." And don't stare. Is it possible that your other activities - paying women to have sex with you, watching porn, etc. - have broken down your boundaries for what is generally considered socially acceptable behavior?
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