Real36 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I started seeing a guy from OLD in October. In the beginning he was interested, making plans in advance, remembering the things we previously talked about, etc. In the last month or so his interest level has really dropped. He no longer makes plans at all. He will ask me to come see him or go out for drinks on the spur of the moment. He has a busy life with a demanding job, daughter he has custody of and preparing to enter grad school. He began talking about "distractions" around Thanksgiving. I didn't hear from him at all last weekend and haven't seen him since before Christmas. I take these things to mean that he just isn't that interested in a relationship with me. Honestly, that is ok with me too. We don't really have much in common and I'm not really all that into him either. I have made a previous thread about him and his issues with my weight. I have been pretty sure that he would just stop contacting me (what I thought was happening last weekend) but he picked right back up on Monday and has text every day since. He text HNY last night and told me he was out with friends. I was at home, exactly where I wanted to be. I see that this is not going to work out as serious and I am not interested in being casual with him. Do I owe him an explanation or should I just let the end come naturally? Thanks.
Author Real36 Posted January 1, 2014 Author Posted January 1, 2014 Thanks KFC. I would prefer to just let the communication taper off and not really have to have a "talk" about it but if he starts the discussion I will gladly explain my position. I don't want to seem apathetic, it's just clear that we aren't a long term match. I'm certain he feels the same way.
theothersully Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 so have a quick talk or even a text. Tell him how you feel. More people should do that. It makes for a much better ending without any hard feelings on either side.
deathandtaxes Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Did you two ever discuss being in a relationship? Exclusivity? If you never touched upon those subjects, you don't really owe him much. If he contacts you to make plans, just say you can't see him anymore and leave it at that.
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