shorty1988m Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 So I did it. I was feeling a bit ****ty as I'm away working from my family. I lost most friends due to my job and I'm generally just miserable at the moment. I sent a simple happy new year. She hasn't replied and I don't think she will but I don't really care that I did it. My head knows she's bad for me but I do still love her and the only thing that hurts is not that I can't have her but that I just want to know if she's feeling as bad as me. Time to get my life together I think or I'm really going to hot rock bottom.
Heatemyheart89 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 It doesn't matter. Who cares if she responds.Maybe she is feeling bad, she prob is. But nc is best to get over this. I hope 2014 is a much better year for you. 1
JDPT Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 For your sake, luckily she won't reply. You had a weak moment that's all it was, a weak moment. We were all overly vulnerable during these holidays. I'm just glad it's all over and now back to what actually matters back to taking care of me. 3
DownNtOut Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 not to worry. i feel terrible the last week. wondering if she would text me happy xmas or happy new year she didnt and i cant stop thinking of her. i hope she thinks of me. but i have to move on. 8weeks nc i have to believe its gona get better
Author shorty1988m Posted January 1, 2014 Author Posted January 1, 2014 Well I ****ed up again. Got angry when she didn't reply so blocked her everywhere. Then sent an email saying all I wanted was to change how we ended to being on a good note instead of on a bad. Then I said ill just say goodbye and hope you say it back. She hasn't responded. I don't know why I do this it really is just wanting to say goodbye. I tried this before and eventually she got angry and said fine goodbye and I was ready to move on in my head. Until the next day when she sent the 'you're the love of my life' message and I was back to square one. I just want to stop thinking of her, I want to enjoy my new job, make new friends but at the minute in just depressed, no fun to be around really don't want to be here anymore.
JDPT Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Do you realize that she said "goodbye" to you a very long time ago? You continue to give her your power and dignity served on a platter for her to pick it up, walk to the trash and dump it. You and your ex are in totally different wavelengths. For us dumpees, I feel that we are always a step behind the dumper. It takes us a bit longer to internalize and come to the many realizations that they have already reached long ago. However, we strive towards the same goal, which is to heal ourselves fully and move on with our lives in a healthier manner. Be strong, do not contact her anymore, no more "goodbyes" the relationship was buried a long time ago. Remain calm and in control of all situations, don't act on impulse and ultimately, start proactively contributing towards healing. 2
SurplusIndifference Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Got angry when she didn't reply so blocked her everywhere She hasn't responded. You blocked her, how could she reply? 1
MoooOinkBaaa Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 For us dumpees, I feel that we are always a step behind the dumper. It takes us a bit longer to internalize and come to the many realizations that they have already reached long ago. However, we strive towards the same goal, which is to heal ourselves fully and move on with our lives in a healthier manner. . Very well thought. No wonder us dumpees are always getting set back by the dumper. It reminded me of myself months ago, then I compared myself to how I am now my ex is always a step ahead.
JDPT Posted January 3, 2014 Posted January 3, 2014 Very well thought. No wonder us dumpees are always getting set back by the dumper. It reminded me of myself months ago, then I compared myself to how I am now my ex is always a step ahead. I to this day which is 8 months post BU have not clue about my ex's whereabouts. And quiet honestly I believe it's much better this way for ME, as I am all that matters. I always felt that the dumpers had the upper hand. They pulled the trigger and made the final decision. The formulated and executed their intentions disregarding everything and anything. They were well prepared for this moment. As opposed to us dumpees who were ambushed and caught off guard with their decision. We were left to gracefully accept their decision. Little do they know that we are survivors and we work day and day out to get over them and pave a better future without them. As they say they show must go on and so it will without them.
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