dmmm Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Well, weve decided it is for the best for us to go our separate ways - both have life goals to achieve etc which aren;t going to change/be avoided. Still so crazy about her, still see things as perfect. Was together a year. Ended yesterday. Just how do you go about getting over someone when you can't look back at negatives, can't list reasons you broke up. Just so empty. Horrible to think that person is out there who you get on so perfect with but not going to be together.
LostConfused123 Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Well, weve decided it is for the best for us to go our separate ways - both have life goals to achieve etc which aren;t going to change/be avoided. Still so crazy about her, still see things as perfect. Was together a year. Ended yesterday. Just how do you go about getting over someone when you can't look back at negatives, can't list reasons you broke up. Just so empty. Horrible to think that person is out there who you get on so perfect with but not going to be together. Oh, that's so sad. I'm so sorry!! I can kinda relate, even though I was the dumpee. My ex and I never even had a fight (not that fighting, if done fairly is bad) but just saying it's really hard to be angry sometimes. I hear the anger stage is the least painful and I'm more angry at the situation, not him. Sometimes I wish we hadn't gotten along so well, sometimes I wish he wasn't so sweet, sometimes I wish we weren't attracted like magnets. . . Then I would have something to look back on and think "screw him" I have no hard feelings for him and I'm absolutely positive he would say the same about me. Best of luck to you!!!
LostConfused123 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Wanted to also add. . . Our break up talk was probably the most polite and respectful break up ever! Never had THAT happen before. In a way, I guess it's good but in a way makes me miss how well we really did get along.
Kopite Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Same here for me. Our break-up was really nice as we both accepted the situation. The only problem with it is that it leaves me hope that there is still a chance for us, which I don't want, because I just want to move on at this point.
somedude81 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Well, weve decided it is for the best for us to go our separate ways - both have life goals to achieve etc which aren;t going to change/be avoided. can't list reasons you broke up. Did you have reasons you broke up or not?
LostConfused123 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Same here for me. Our break-up was really nice as we both accepted the situation. The only problem with it is that it leaves me hope that there is still a chance for us, which I don't want, because I just want to move on at this point. I know what you mean. . . it's that Damn last flicker of hope that just won't die!!! I hate it!!! I think I (and all us LS people) have made it through the worst. (the holidays) So glad that's over!!! I think now that flicker will die fairly quickly. I HOPE!!! Die hope, die!!!!
sickoflove11 Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Well, weve decided it is for the best for us to go our separate ways - both have life goals to achieve etc which aren;t going to change/be avoided. Still so crazy about her, still see things as perfect. Was together a year. Ended yesterday. Just how do you go about getting over someone when you can't look back at negatives, can't list reasons you broke up. Just so empty. Horrible to think that person is out there who you get on so perfect with but not going to be together. This sounds almost exactly like my situation, I was hoping to find someone else out there. My ex and I ended because we decided it was best, we were both moving away different places. We got along so great It's hard for me to think of anything negative in times when I'm feeling so down. My best advice to you is NC do not break it do not give in to it because that's where I'm at now. 6months post break up we've made contact over phone/social media and I even saw him over Thanksgiving. I have so much hope in the back of my mind that he still wants to be a part of my life since we are on good terms and he contacts me… I'm sure he's far past moved on and all I do is miss him everyday waiting until the next time he'll contact me, afraid of when it'll be the last time. I'm trying to use the New Year as day 1 start clean, no contact. I need this. Best of luck to you.
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