conmorse Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Ex and I were dating for 2 years. Broke up in November, so it's been a month and a half post break up. The reason for the breakup was that she said she no longer felt the same way, had emotionally distanced herself back in October, that she had to work on herself and that the spark disappeared. It was basically a blindside breakup as she never brought any of this up before. Just recently I heard from a mutual friend of both mine and the ex, that curiosity is really killing her. She's been curious as to what I've been doing and what I've been up to. I've remained NC since the breakup and deleted her on Facebook and other social media. I also found out that she has no problem if I wanted to talk to her, but she just doesn't want it to be another "break up" all over again and that she wouldn't know what we'd even talk about. I've been dying to talk to her since the break up, but I know that it should be her to reach out first as shes the "dumper". Clearly if she actually cared enough she would do this, but feels too guilty or scared about wanting to reach out. What exactly does it mean that shes curious? Why would she be curious? Yeah we were together for 2 years and its natural to be curious, but she should have carefully thought this through when she ended it. She should have known I would no longer be a part of her life. Throughout our entire relationship I was I was always the one who did "chasing", so for me to immediately stop chasing her after the breakup is going completely against the grain. Not once have I "begged" or "pleaded" other than the initial break up, so its going against everything she knows about me. Is this why shes curious? Was she expecting me to try to "beg" and "win" her back, but is now rather confused when I did the complete opposite by going No Contact?
AllTooWell Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Stop wondering. What exactly does it mean that shes curious? Why would she be curious? Yeah we were together for 2 years and its natural to be curious, but she should have carefully thought this through when she ended it. She should have known I would no longer be a part of her life. You answered your own question right there - 2 years is a long time. She was used to being a part of your life and probably did not expect you to be able to cut her out like you did. Obviously, curiosity doesn't mean she wants you back. I'm curious about many of the people in my past- doesn't mean anything about them, doesn't mean I want to be friends, just wondering how they are doing every once and a while. It's in your best interests to stop getting details about what she's doing from mutual friends.
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