mirage12 Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 I had plans to go to a fun event with 4 other friends. It's still pretty early in the day where I am, but it's looking like my NYE plans might be falling apart. One friend bailed because she's sick, another couple is now a maybe because one of the pair pulled an over nighter for work last night and my last friend is kind of flaky/isn't responding to my texts...I have a bad feeling he might bail as well. I'm sure that I NEED to do something other than sit alone tonight, thinking/wondering what my ex is doing or who she's dancing with/hooking up with at midnight. Would it be weird to go to this event alone if I can't find replacement friends to go with??! Ugh :/
d0nnivain Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Not at all. Going alone would be better than staying home & brooding. Maybe the married couple will get a 2nd wind. 1
JDPT Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 What about family, try reaching out to them. 1
deathandtaxes Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Get out of this pattern of thinking! Why even think about the ex? Is your lift so glum you have to think about somebody else? Yikes! Get a book. Go see a movie. Meditate. Whatevs.
Little_Confused Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Hey, i am going to a house party alone tonight. I was invited by a person whom i've seen 5 years ago and there will be 100 people. In the past months after the break up i didn't even want to go out anywhere, as if i was afraid of myself. But hey then you think, your ex is moving on, while you are still suffering. Just go for it, drink a bit, listen to your favourite music and prepare yourself to meet lots of new people, be approachable. Who knows what tonight will bring - a new adventure, a new friend, a new special person? If i would be in NY, we could go together. This is my first ever house party to which i go after the break up and by myself. Ou come on, you should do it as well. We have nothing to lose, haven't we?
barky2 Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Take a cab in somewhere, get wasted have a blast, if you don't "meet someone" take a cab home. If played right, I guarantee one of the best nights of your life. When I was single, I would always go out alone. Meet a lot of new people and have a blast. Trust me, don't sit and sulk. There's random strangers that would love to hangout with you. Barky 1
CaliBabe Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Go alone, be totally random and meet new people. Its 2014! FTW!
ponchsox Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Who cares? Stay in and watch a good movie. 1
fancy feast Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Sounds like a good opportunity to go out and meet some people.
Debanked Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 New Years eve has always been way overhyped for me. If plans materialize, fine. If not, no biggie. Honestly, I'd rather not have a hangover and the sun will rise the same for everyone on January 1, having "partied" or not. Maybe it's a maturity thing but when you're older and married with children, it's pretty low on the list of priorities. You're just glad to get a night off and the next day to chill. You savor it.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 I'm not doing a single thing tonight -- I work until 12:30 a.m. and might go over to a friend's after if he's not completely wasted -- and I'm completely cool with it. I think I've grown past the big New Year's celebrations -- I can go to the same bars and have the same amount of fun on any other day and not pay a ridiculous cover charge.
Author mirage12 Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 It's weird...normally I agree, that the date itself is really superficial and doesn't matter all that much. But thinking about New Years has necessarily meant thinking about 2013, and I think that's what's been really agitating me. Most of the year and most of the memories I have from it are with or related to my ex in some way. Making things worse is that I haven't kept full NC since we broke up about 6 or 7 weeks ago. She's dropped breadcrumbs that she missed me/wanted to see me/meet up, and we've talked in circles about it but it still hasn't happened yet. While I know she's really busy with work, reality is that she lives 2 min away, and if she really did want to meet up, it wouldn't have taken 2 months... I guess both the memories sinking in and the realization that maybe our relationship, or perhaps just me, didn't mean as much to her as I might've hoped make this NYE especially hard. I know she'll be probably partying tonight or getting drunk somewhere while on vacation with her family, having a great time. That's the main reason why I'm so anxious to try to have a good time myself.
FortunateSon Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 My plans are up in the air. I will likely have a nice dinner with my family but as far as late night festivities, I have the chance to go to a party, but part of me likes the idea of getting a good nights sleep. You know what they say, New Years Eve is amateur night anyway!
Simon Phoenix Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 It's weird...normally I agree, that the date itself is really superficial and doesn't matter all that much. But thinking about New Years has necessarily meant thinking about 2013, and I think that's what's been really agitating me. Most of the year and most of the memories I have from it are with or related to my ex in some way. Making things worse is that I haven't kept full NC since we broke up about 6 or 7 weeks ago. She's dropped breadcrumbs that she missed me/wanted to see me/meet up, and we've talked in circles about it but it still hasn't happened yet. While I know she's really busy with work, reality is that she lives 2 min away, and if she really did want to meet up, it wouldn't have taken 2 months... I guess both the memories sinking in and the realization that maybe our relationship, or perhaps just me, didn't mean as much to her as I might've hoped make this NYE especially hard. I know she'll be probably partying tonight or getting drunk somewhere while on vacation with her family, having a great time. That's the main reason why I'm so anxious to try to have a good time myself. It's time to live for you, not in reaction to her. Who cares what she's doing? It's a new year, which means it's time for new experiences and new memories. Put 2013 in your rear view and put her there. While she won't be gone from your memory, at the very least stop looking back and wondering what she's doing back there. And stop talking to her and go NC, please.
LostConfused123 Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 I go to events alone all the time because I actually enjoy it sometimes. Being a woman, my other female friends think it's so weird that I go to a sport's bar alone to watch football or go to the art museum alone and they really think it's weird when I go to a movie by myself. I don't care what anyone says, sometimes going out alone is really fun. You can plan the entire evening according to what YOU want to do. I say go for it!!! Happy 2014!!! I hope you get everything you want in the new year!
JDPT Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Prior to my ex which was roughly 5 years ago I used to go out all the time, I mean all the time. I recall on one of my best times, a friend of mine asked me to meet him and a group of his friends at a bar. To make the long story short I got bored of hanging with them and wondered around the bar. I managed to strike up a conversation with two gorgeous brunettes and at the end of the night they walked out with me, one on each side holding my arm. I was full of confidence then. That's what I'm trying to get back to but not every single night like I used to, believe it or not it gets tiring and boring after a while. Stay home who care, it's amateurs night anyways, it's just like any other night.
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