JennHenn Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Hi, sorry I already have this question on a different thread, but thought I'd post on a new one as it's easier than scrolling through the other comments. Basically, I thought I'd blown it with a guy I met recently, by (when drunk) seeming needy (I texted him and called him before he'd replied to me). Last night, however, in reply to a text I sent yesterday which just made a joke out of that fact that I was really drunk the night before, these are the replies I received: Me: I was so drunk last night, can't even remember what I said, just you can probably ignore what ever it was, haha. Did I call you too? My phone doesn't save anything, so can't check! x Him: Haha, no worries. Just at work, so will text when I'm back x (I didn't reply as no need to!) Him: Just got in. What are you up to? x (I was asleep (even though it was 9pm) and didn't reply) (2 hours later) Him: You ok? x Is he still interested?
mammasita Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Why dont you text/call him back and find out? He's obviously following up for a reason. I'm leaning towards yes.
Author JennHenn Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 Thanks for the reply. I texted him back today and included in the text that I was asleep last night. I didn't bring up anything about the conversation the other night, I just asked him how his day's going. Not had a reply from him yet, but he's at work and it's only been a couple of hours.
MidwestUSA Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Usually, sleeping with a guy so early and following with drunken texts and phone calls puts you on the booty call only list. Text him and see if he wants to take you out or if you're just headed back to his place. Decide in advance if you're okay with the latter; that's where my money is. It's probably what he was hoping for last night. 2
Pretty.in.Pink Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 (edited) Haven't seen your other thread... Yes, he interested. But what does he want? A late night text from a guy after you've claimed you got so drunk you lost your sense of judgment then couldn't even remember what happened once you sobered up isn't necessarily a great sign. Sounds like you really want this to work, but sometimes taking a deep breath is in your best interest. Even if he previously viewed you as girlfriend material, comments like that get you reclassified to unstable but easy hookup when he has nothing going on. No one wants unstable or crazy in a girlfriend because you have to spend time with the person. In a drunken hookup when a guy is horny, who cares? You're shut out of his life when you're inconvenient. You responded this morning. See whether he waits until late at night again. Does he offer to take you out on a date? Or does he suggest a "date" at his place? Dates at his place are unlikely to lead anywhere outside the bedroom. Good luck. Edited December 31, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author JennHenn Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 Not sure about being a booty call. We don't live that close to each other, and he didn't ask if I wanted to go up to his. I've never slept with a guy so quickly before, it just felt different with him, like he wanted to see me again and carry on as we were. I still think that he did. Even after we had, you know, and we were in bed the next afternoon and he was talking about 'the next time' we meet. But I think I scared him away afterwards. I'm so upset with myself because he's actually everything I want. There's not one bad thing about him and he really does stand out from the rest. Even though this is the case, I'm happy just being casual with him. I'm hoping that as I backed off a bit, and asked him to ignore what I said the other night, it might mean that his texts last night were because he's still interested? I was thinking that if he actually wasn't interested, and was just texting to be nice, then he wouldn't have sent another message after I didn't reply for 2 hours?
d0nnivain Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 yes. Now put that whole ugly drunken stupidity out of your head. Going forward, it didn't happen. Proceed with your blossoming relationship. 2
Versacehottie Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 I think you did as well as is possible to fix things from before. I remember your other thread. Now just be patient. Give him the chance to do what he said he was going to do and get back to you. Keep in mind that in these beginning stages, he is deciding whether to proceed or not--as you should be too! Try to refrain from deciding you want him as a boyfriend and instead evaluate whether or not you do, based on how he treats you and what actual connection you do have. good luck!
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