Letitsnow Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 I called him a "bad" boy in teasing way and he slapped my cheek. It did not hurt but I did not like it. Two dates later he did it again and when I asked why he does that, he said just tell me you don't like it and I won't do it again. He actually joked about my facial expression when he did that for the first time. After this, I thought it will never happen again. Until it did. I was surprised and he admitted on his own that he should not because I did not like it. I also explain to him, that after being physically abused before, I don't find it funny as he does. He said he will never abuse me. Honestly, I don't get it. Is this some kind of game men play this days? Slapping girl's face in playful way for no apparent reason? Or am I being overly sensitive about it? Link to post Share on other sites
ron37 Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 attractive/charming guys get away with it while if I tried it id be hauled off to prison. Link to post Share on other sites
aussietigerwolf Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Hmmm... I wonder what other violence he finds playful... I would have walked the first time he did it. I may have playfully kicked him in the nuts first though 5 Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 run fast - this guy is weird needing to slap you is weird and mean, look, it is not mutually agreed on, he wants to be scary 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Letitsnow Posted December 31, 2013 Author Share Posted December 31, 2013 Even though he was presenting that as a joke? It really did not hurt but shocked me and made me uncomfortable. Also, when he talk about some things - he would slap/hit his steering wheel to emphasize what he was talking about. Link to post Share on other sites
regine_phalange Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 He is pushing your physical boundaries, to see if you are going to make a big deal out of it. I'm sure he thinks now that if he chooses to slap you harder in the future, he is going to get away with it. He thinks that your reaction will be explaining why it annoys you, instead of dumping him. Make a big deal out of it and run! 5 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Face no. Ass yes. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
BikerAccnt Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Uh no. Slap him back and see how he likes it. Link to post Share on other sites
Janesays Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 No, it's not normal. It's completely disrespectful. I'd walk. Link to post Share on other sites
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Absolutely NOT okay. The only way a man should touch your face is in a loving, gentle way. He's done it 3 times already even after you told him you didn't like it? No thanks, I would be done. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
ThatMan Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Honestly, I don't get it. Is this some kind of game men play this days? Slapping girl's face in playful way for no apparent reason? Or am I being overly sensitive about it? As someone who has been from an abusive relationship, you should know this behavior is a precursor to something more. Now you have the opportunity to empower yourself and do something about it. Where you go from here is entirely up to you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Cinnimon Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Red flag-red flag-red flag-red flag !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Even though he was presenting that as a joke? It really did not hurt but shocked me and made me uncomfortable. Also, when he talk about some things - he would slap/hit his steering wheel to emphasize what he was talking about. Right now he says it's a joke. Give it a few weeks, he'll start saying it's your fault for reason X, Y and Z. Get the hell away from this dude…fast! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaWolf92 Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Bad idea even with the best intentions just put yourself in the other persons shoes playful or not. or think how would someone else look at you if they saw it. speaking from experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Debanked Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 It's not normal. I once playfully slapped my girlfriend's (now wife) ass just joking around at a family event. My dad saw it and later pulled me aside and about kicked my ass for doing so. I'll never forget it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sand Man Dan Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 I actually find it kind of a turn on when a girl slaps me in a sexy way like she's punishing me but if it legit hurts that's not cool. A kinky little series of slaps is hot though. This is not such a case. This is red flag city. Leave. Link to post Share on other sites
Phantom888 Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 NEVER touch a girl on the face unless you are kissing it! Playful or not, I can't imagine any woman liking a hand on her face. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 (edited) I called him a "bad" boy in teasing way and he slapped my cheek. It did not hurt but I did not like it. Two dates later he did it again and when I asked why he does that, he said just tell me you don't like it and I won't do it again. He actually joked about my facial expression when he did that for the first time. After this, I thought it will never happen again. Until it did. I was surprised and he admitted on his own that he should not because I did not like it. I also explain to him, that after being physically abused before, I don't find it funny as he does. He said he will never abuse me. Honestly, I don't get it. Is this some kind of game men play this days? Slapping girl's face in playful way for no apparent reason? Or am I being overly sensitive about it? I would react very badly if a man did that. No, a man has never slapped me playfully in the face and if a man did that I would be very very taken aback and would get very angry. The only place a man has playfully slapped me is on my butt and that's been when we're in a relationship or have been seeing each other for a while. Sorry, but I would be wary that a man who felt so casual about doing this "playfully" and multiple times after you have said it makes you uncomfortable, would be someone who was testing my boundaries and who would increase this behavior to more physical stuff later on. NOPE! Edited December 31, 2013 by MissBee Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 The real issue here is you told him you didn't like it, he agreed not to do it again, then he did it again! This shows he has either impulse control problems or disrespect for your boundaries, neither which is compatible with a satisfying long-term relationship. NEXT! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NeverGonnaSettle Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 He does not have the right to touch you without your permission. Furthermore I agree, this is a precursor by which he is testing what he can get away with. Stop doubting yourself, justifying it on his behalf that you're just being oversensitive. This. Is. Not. Okay. Don't negotiate b/c it won't work. Just Leave! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
nittygritty Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Slapping someone in the face is a form of physical abuse IMO. It is definitely not normal behavior to "playfully" slap your dates face. He's a jerk. Don't go out with him again. Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 No man has the rights to slap you in face, whether it's playful or not. If a man did that to me as a joke, not only would I leave but on the way out remind him how lucky he is that at least I'm not one of those women who jokes about hitting a man in the nuts and thinking it's funny. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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