jackstanton Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 I have been dating a nice girl for two months. She is by nature somewhat emotionally distant, but she cares and she is a serious person. One week ago, before we parted ways for the holiday, we had a mild disagreement which meant things were somewhat tense when we said good bye. Since then our communication has been strained, while usually we message back and forth everyday she has been putting a day or two in between her responses. I sent her a long message two days ago, and she has yet to respond. Then today she posts publicly that she will be out of contact for one week. She hasnt mentioned anything about this to me. I am pretty annoyed and find her behavior to be somewhat disrespectful. I wont see her for at least another ten days as well. Should I calm down and just wait, or do you think she is heading for the exit door?
Eivuwan Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 She seems to have an avoidant style to conflict resolution. This does not bode well for the future. If you still want to pursue the relationship, then I suggest waiting until she comes back to talk to her.
GemmaUK Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Has she expressed feeling smothered by too much contact in any way?
Author jackstanton Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 Has she expressed feeling smothered by too much contact in any way? She never said anything like that. I try to be very respectful of her space.
Author jackstanton Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 What was the disagreement about? The fight was overt nothing substantive. Something silly.
CC12 Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 The fight was overt nothing substantive. Something silly. Okay. Well, whatever it was, it seems possible that it was actually important to her and she's taking it a little more seriously than you are. Maybe you're right and it was something silly. Maybe she's more upset by how you handled it than the actual subject matter of the fight. Not sure why you're not considering that the fight might have had something to do with her being distant now. Anyway, is she being disrespectful? If your relationship has been pretty casual then no, probably not. It doesn't sound like you're officially "boyfriend/girlfriend" so she really has no obligation to keep in touch with you. Why haven't you just asked her if everything is okay or if she's still upset about the fight? 1
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