railerswim Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 No here me out on this ladies. I'm not calling you out. Only just reaching out and expressing how dating is when you drew the short straw. I'm blessed with intelligence, perseverance, dedication, commitment, leadership, humor, etc. And I have been in so many clubs/organizations and have been raised a certain way to obtain theses traits. I was also blessed with decent looks, a kind and understanding heart, and the ability to know right from wrong. I was also told to never be cocky, instead I was told to be humble. One thing I didn't luck out on was height. I received more of my Mother's genes than my Father's in that department. My Dad is 5'10" and my Mom is 5'2". On the other hand my Brother (younger) is 6'0" and my Sister (older) is 5'11". One factor that may have help lead me to being short is the fact that I was a twin and my twin sister had a higher white blood count (which led to leukemia RIP Meagan) so maybe that meant she took more nutrition or something, I don't know. Anyway I'm stuck at 5'4", my growth plates are fused and I'm 20 years old. In my high school experience, I was ok because the average height was about 5'2" until my Senior year. Once I hit college it was ok because I dated to girls shorter and one an inch taller my first year of college. Now I'm in my second year of college and have had 0 luck with the ladies (possibly due to change... can't tell... it's confusing) I didn't have a date to the fall formal that I planned for my fraternity (yeah I know sad). It's like girls don't like talking to me for some reason. My voice is a little higher pitched (not too much) but it's stuck that way. I can't change this **** about me and it's like oh his voice... f*** off loser. I can be a somebody to all the guys around, a leader, a friend, yet when it comes to the opposite sex, I'm like a tool. They use me to fix their computer and help them with stupid homework and bam... ok bye I don't want to talk to you anymore. It's ridiculous, I've read up on studies that short guys are really doomed from the time they start dating unless if they shoot up a handful of inches. Look lets be real, here's my experience in dating. Afterwards compare my experience with those of tall guys and other short guys and see if you can find a pattern (remember money is an unfortunate factor as well). (When I say taller or tall guy I mean 5'9" or taller) (x2) I have been cheated on (taller than me) (x4) I have been dumped for another guy (taller than me) (x2) Straight up told me I was too short (I appreciate the honesty though, not a common quality anymore) (x13) Rejected, 2 weeks later is in relationship (with a tall guy) I could go on and on how I have been lied to, stood up, rejected, treated like crap. NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THIS but you must acknowledge the fact that if a short guy is doomed in the first 30 seconds unless he can really wow or the girl really knows him. *tip for short guys: do try to get to know them first and be friends (+6 months) and it might be easier idk give it a try. MY MAIN POINT IS not that dating isn't fair... it's life, nothing is fair, especially dating for almost anyone with any disadvantage. But the main point is that it's hard for shorter guys to have confidence. Well they should just get confidence you say. I'm sorry it's not that simple. The lack of confidence usually springs from trust issues and incidents that a short guy has experienced. I don't expect everyone to understand. But events in the dating world have a longer lasting effect on short guys, good or bad. So in turn we have to overcome a mountain to get back on the horse. I myself have gotten good at climbing these mountains but lately I feel like I've been climbing up Mount Everest. Hopefully I make it to the top but most don't reach the top... See what I'm getting at here? Here is an even better analogy of my point. I am a competitive swimmer. My last league meet in my High School career I was in the second fastest heat of the 50 yard freestyle. I was also in the fastest lane for that heat. We get the call to go up the starting block... the judge says "On your mark!" and activates the bull horn and strobe. As I leave the starting block I take a deep breath. I am sprinting as fast as I can through the water, not panicking but have a nice smooth and powerful stroke through the water and my legs are kicking as fast as possible. I had a really strong flip turn. The only person I see is the guy in the second fastest lane next to me and I tied with him (based on location of our heads). We both reach the wall. He beat me by half a second because he was taller and had longer reach. My coach said he took a breath every stroke (which is really bad for a swimmer to do) whereas I only took the one breath as I left the diving block. I never panicked nor did I slow down. In life shorter men will always be set aside for someone else (taller) to take their place. You can say what you will about Napoleon complexes if you have to. But I counter with this. Ok lets make you 6'5" if you're female, or 5'4" if you're male. Try as hard as you can to date someone, I dare you. You can do everything an average height person would do and not even get a little bit of interest out of your crush. It's hard being short, you don't have to make it fair, but judge personality first if you can. If you just can't then that short guy deserves better than you.
Author railerswim Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 I have dated a couple of heavier set girls. Weight isn't an issue to me, I can't say that for all short guys but I can say that for me. I know that's an issue too. You may state that is an issue too (which I do believe it is one) but please don't negate the fact that short guys have a hard time too.
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