xRJ85x Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 For those in relationships on here, how would you say your dating lifestyle and habits progressed over time with your SO? Obviously in the beginning, you plan elaborate dates ahead of time. But once you've gone on a bunch of them and things are starting to go somewhere, how do they change? I ask because its been a while since I've been in anything that past a couple dates. Meanwhile, I see all my friends who are in established relationships really don't go on many dates once things progress. Dates turn simply into going out to dinner then going home and hanging out on the couch. Is this normal for everyone and something I should expect? I've been putting so much pressure on myself lately worrying that I'll have to continually come up with different things to do to keep her interest, and it makes me miserable...
BrandonMarshall Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 For those in relationships on here, how would you say your dating lifestyle and habits progressed over time with your SO? Obviously in the beginning, you plan elaborate dates ahead of time. But once you've gone on a bunch of them and things are starting to go somewhere, how do they change? I ask because its been a while since I've been in anything that past a couple dates. Meanwhile, I see all my friends who are in established relationships really don't go on many dates once things progress. Dates turn simply into going out to dinner then going home and hanging out on the couch. Is this normal for everyone and something I should expect? I've been putting so much pressure on myself lately worrying that I'll have to continually come up with different things to do to keep her interest, and it makes me miserable... dude just have fun. You don't need to treat every date like it's a master piece. In fact if she's attracted to her it really doesn't matter where you take her... (although it's always nice to try new things.) After a while and being in a relationship it stops being like "dates" and more like hanging out or going out to dinner that's right... and it becomes a mutual decision in most circumstances. A "date" now for me would be my girlfriend telling me she found this cool local place on Yelp.com and we gotta try it. Or I'll tell her we're going down town.... or we'll both agree to get carry out and watch movies together.
Author xRJ85x Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 dude just have fun. You don't need to treat every date like it's a master piece. In fact if she's attracted to her it really doesn't matter where you take her... (although it's always nice to try new things.) After a while and being in a relationship it stops being like "dates" and more like hanging out or going out to dinner that's right... and it becomes a mutual decision in most circumstances. A "date" now for me would be my girlfriend telling me she found this cool local place on Yelp.com and we gotta try it. Or I'll tell her we're going down town.... or we'll both agree to get carry out and watch movies together. See, that's what I want, to not have to worry about anything and for decisions to be mutual. But at what point is the guy expected to stop "having to lead" and start being able to ask her "anything special you wanna do?" I personally am the happiest just laying on the couch with her watching TV. But I'm willingly to put in the effort if she wants to go out and do something. It could go either way with her, but I'm afraid to ask the dreaded "what do you wanna do?" question because I don't know where we stand quite yet. We're definitely progressing to something but we're not in a relationship. Its that halfway point.
Pretty.in.Pink Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Same here. We still go out on dates on a regular basis. Probably more now because we see each other almost every day, whereas early on it was once or twice a week. It's a little lopsided, but fairly close to 50:50. I tend to plan weekend trips away, activity dates, adventures, and more unusual things, since I'm an adrenaline junkie. Basically weekend stuff. His tend to be more new restaurants and movies...more daily activities. Sure we'll hang out on his couch, but that's late at night after a full day outside--we've gone on a hike, out to a restaurant and to a live musical performance, for example. Then we'll vedge out. But even that quickly turns into other activities. If you strongly prefer to stay in, I would try to find someone with similar preferences.
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