sickoflove11 Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 It's been 6 months since my ex and I broke up. I met him when I moved to Ca and we dated 10 months and broke it off because he was moving and I figure he just wasn't in it enough to try and make it work (he's not great at communication either). He was my first and only friend here. I never made the effort to make my own friends because I enjoyed when we would spend time with his and I was always invited to things with all of them. I know that was dumb on my part because now here I am. We are in our early 20's and he moved for school so I decided to move back to where I used to live out of state as I knew id cope better not being here with my only memories being of him and I. Basically just running away from my problems. We kept in minimal contact, short conversations maybe 3 times a month and saw each other over thanksgiving break twice and of course everything seemed great we enjoyed each others company and I had no intentions or hope of getting back together. We said goodbye and that we'd see each other over winter break. I'm leaving Ca in 3 days and have not seen him. He said merry christmas to me and has made no effort to see me. I see his friends posts about what they're all doing and it hurts so much knowing I'm not invited anymore. I get it, he's an ex, I should get off social media. It is so hard being here having absolutely no friends and seeing everything I use to be a part of happen. I guess I should mention our conversations we've had were over the app snap chat.. nothing sexual, just regular conversations and he will still send me them from time to time. He did 2 days ago and it was just pointless.. I'd really like anyones opinion or advice should i stop all contact? When I'm out of state I could care less but I'm going to be moving back to Ca in less than a year and all I can think about when I'm here is him, and how he still has all his friends and I do not. Sorry for this long vent.. Link to post Share on other sites
AllTooWell Posted December 31, 2013 Share Posted December 31, 2013 Seems like you already know what we're gonna tell you here, and what you should be doing - you just don't want to. You guys are broken up but on good terms - but you're pining, OBVIOUSLY, whether you wanna admit it or not. Delete Snapchat entirely (or delete him off it, but then you risk him asking why you deleted him). You need to hide all his Facebook posts and the posts of mutual friends so you don't see his name. And you need to stop being a glutton for punishment and take a break from talking until you are no longer this hurt. Go make some friends - stop sulking. You can do this. It hurts and it sucks, but you CAN do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sickoflove11 Posted December 31, 2013 Author Share Posted December 31, 2013 Thanks for that AllTooWell. I've never posted on here and wanted to vent. I needed someone to tell me what I already know without sugar coating it like I do in my mind.. I only came home for the holidays and I have no idea how to make friends in a week but I'm hoping when I move back I CAN do it, like you said. Link to post Share on other sites
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