phloxxandsoxx Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Hi all, I'm new to these forums but have been reading a lot. Everyone here is so wise. Welp, I just ended things with my boyfriend. We had 2 years, and he is not taking it well. He was inattentive and sometimes (I think unintentionally for the most part) cruel. He could be selfish. Financially he was too generous, which messed me up financially because I came to depend on him. But he kind of felt like that meant he could be selfish with everything else. I decided I want to make and spend my own money, not his or any other person's. I tried to break up with him five times to no avail. He would start crying and manipulate me back into staying with him for more of the same. By the way, he is married. It bothered me NO END he seemed indifferent to the pain he was causing his wife by all this, and I was causing her. He was philosophical and cheerful about it. Finally had enough of it tonight. Between us cheating on this unknown woman, his not caring about it, and him keeping me under a bell jar as p***y for hire, I at last got fed up tonight, and I ended things. He claims his eye is hurting and he cannot talk, but said "Let's sleep on it please and talk about it tomorrow." I don't want to talk about it tomorrow or ever. This is very hard for me because without his funding I will end up on the streets (I am an artist). But I would rather that than for this fakery and sex for favors stuff continue. He wouldn't end it so I have been forced to. Very sad and scary. I live in a big city where things are ruthless. Not sure I will physically survive. But I am free.
legion113 Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 time to change your phone number methinks. to use the word "free" tells me a lot about how you felt about the relationship.
Hoosfoos Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 A cheater who treated you like s#it! Sounds like a real catch.
k10k Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Finally had enough of it tonight. Between us cheating on this unknown woman, his not caring about it, and him keeping me under a bell jar as p***y for hire, I at last got fed up tonight, and I ended things. Seriously, well done for ending this situation. Have you checked out the other man/women forum? Might help you gain some insights, as there are people on there who are/were in similar situations as yourself.
Author phloxxandsoxx Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 Thanks to all of you for hearing me vent here... it's been tough. He texted me first thing this morning and just sent epic, Tolstoy novel length texts about "the relationship", and "if this is what you want", and clinggggging and moannninnng and whininnnng and not wanting to let go... how's this for two gems: "Yea I have to admit I am obsessed with you" and "I don't believe in goodbyes" Don't get worried. He's not the violent type. He is stalkery though. He went through this period where I could not get him out of my house. He followed me from room like a room like a two year old boy clutching mama's apron, and whenever we would sit down, he'd just perch there and "**smile**" at me - this long, unbroken, staring smile... such star-ey eyes... my God... horrible... I was firm. I kept saying, "No, I mean it", "No, this is the end", "There is no turning back this time", "stop sending me novels, I'm not falling for it this time, we are through, this time it's DONE". He offered to pay my rent this coming month. I know what that is. It's a hook: his way of slithering back in. He's so certain I am penniless and that's just where he wanted and put me (but I let him, so I am exactly as much fault here). I did not reply when he said that. Then I said, "We're done. Have a good, peaceful day ___." No honey, no hon, no babe, just his name. He replied using a cute word we used together at the beginning of the relationship, kind of a tag word. To me this says he has rewinded his memory back to "the good times", and is looking all the way back two years ago at the start of our relationship! God don't these people ever move on! I'm scared what will happen next financially but at least it will be on my terms. I may never date again after this one. I'm traumatized. I mean I NEVER want romance or love, or even sex, ever again. It's not worth it at all.
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