Author liteasair Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 I called my ex after 3 months of NC, and it was a terrible decision. Basically, he acted all happy like nothing was wrong with him. It was horrible to hear him, and it just reminded me of how much I missed him but couldn't be with him. Don't contact your ex. I know you miss the ex, but they can't help you with that. That's not the answer. Wow I'm so sorry you had to go through that... So does getting back with the ex never work? I don't understand why 2 people who once loved each other so much can't make something work? I'm just a romantic at heart I guess...
WYSWYG Posted January 26, 2014 Posted January 26, 2014 Wow I'm so sorry you had to go through that... So does getting back with the ex never work? I don't understand why 2 people who once loved each other so much can't make something work? I'm just a romantic at heart I guess... There's a post here somewhere about someone getting back w/ their ex so it's a possibility. There's are a lot of variables that can disrupt a relationship over time and trying to understand them can be a lot of pain - it's a trial and error process and pretty much the base of this message board. I can try to walk on exes shoes vice-versa but in reality, only she see's it her way. Finally, we're almost all romantic at heart. It's a double-edged sword..
Philosoraptor Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 There's a post here somewhere about someone getting back w/ their ex so it's a possibility. Ugh, why???? I know you mean well but all this offers is false hope to someone who needs to focus on themselves now and in the moment, and not a minute possibility in the future. Wow I'm so sorry you had to go through that... So does getting back with the ex never work? I don't understand why 2 people who once loved each other so much can't make something work? I'm just a romantic at heart I guess... Yes, it can work. But both people must be 100% committed to both letting go of the past, correcting the issues that plagued the relationship, and moving on together with a clear commitment to one another. I'm sorry friend, but she is clearly not interested in putting in that effort. As much as you want it to work, she doesn't. And nothing you can do can make her change her mind. You need to focus on yourself, your own happiness, and where you want to go for yourself from here on out. Do what you can to find a little bit of happiness in everything in life; as life is too short to waste any more time on someone who doesn't want to be with you.
Author liteasair Posted January 28, 2014 Author Posted January 28, 2014 Ugh, why???? I know you mean well but all this offers is false hope to someone who needs to focus on themselves now and in the moment, and not a minute possibility in the future. Yes, it can work. But both people must be 100% committed to both letting go of the past, correcting the issues that plagued the relationship, and moving on together with a clear commitment to one another. I'm sorry friend, but she is clearly not interested in putting in that effort. As much as you want it to work, she doesn't. And nothing you can do can make her change her mind. You need to focus on yourself, your own happiness, and where you want to go for yourself from here on out. Do what you can to find a little bit of happiness in everything in life; as life is too short to waste any more time on someone who doesn't want to be with you. Your post actually made me tear up, but thank you. Your words got right down to the core of me and I realize you are right. If she wanted this to work out, she would not have cut of communication with me like she did, and would have been willing to talk about it.
Philosoraptor Posted January 29, 2014 Posted January 29, 2014 Your post actually made me tear up, but thank you. Your words got right down to the core of me and I realize you are right. If she wanted this to work out, she would not have cut of communication with me like she did, and would have been willing to talk about it. I'm glad you can see that. Focus not on the past but on the present moment. Find your happiness right now, as you can never be sure when your time is going to be up. 1
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