slightly_unusual Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 I happened to meet the family of the girl im presently seeing but that's only because I picked her up at her house on two of our dates , my family live 100 miles from me and although im invited to a wedding in the town im originally from , im not sure this woman would be comfortable meeting my folks , we,ve only known each other less than two months tbh im not pushed about introducing her to them , im just interested in how other people view the issue
Onethirtyeight Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 I don't do it until I'm sure its going to be a long term thing. I'd say after 2 months you have a good idea if you're going to make it to 6 months or not.
Author slightly_unusual Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 It varies depending on the woman. Ask her. might make her feel awkward , why would she be all that interested in meeting them in reality ? I might ask her to join me as a guest at this wedding ive been invited to or perhaps you need to be going out with someone for a while before you do that either
d0nnivain Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Since there is an occasion -- the wedding -- 2 months in seems fine. You will cause more grief in your relationship if you don't ask her to the wedding. If you ask, she still has the option of saying no. Since it's 100 miles away, if you two are not already having sex, you should also clarify the sleeping arrangements if you are not driving home immediately after the reception.
Pretty.in.Pink Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Ask her. Everyone is different. Every relationship is different. Sometimes, I would be fine meeting a guy's family early on. Other times, not so much. Depends on the dynamics and the context. Also, weddings are usually scheduled months in advance. You will be further along in your relationship by the time the wedding rolls around.
Author slightly_unusual Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 Since there is an occasion -- the wedding -- 2 months in seems fine. You will cause more grief in your relationship if you don't ask her to the wedding. If you ask, she still has the option of saying no. Since it's 100 miles away, if you two are not already having sex, you should also clarify the sleeping arrangements if you are not driving home immediately after the reception. we can stay at my moms , she has plenty of spare rooms , I stayed in this girls moms place and slept in the spare room after our second date , wasn't planned , her car got damaged and I had to drive her home , was late and stormy so didn't suit me to drive home
Author slightly_unusual Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 Ask her. Everyone is different. Every relationship is different. Sometimes, I would be fine meeting a guy's family early on. Other times, not so much. Depends on the dynamics and the context. Also, weddings are usually scheduled months in advance. You will be further along in your relationship by the time the wedding rolls around. oh this is an unconventional wedding celebration , the couple in question had one of those vegas style shotgun weddings without even telling their parents , that was two months ago , their having a family and friends party - thing in ten days time , im seeing this girl tomorrow so I might run it by her
Els Posted January 2, 2014 Posted January 2, 2014 might make her feel awkward , why would she be all that interested in meeting them in reality ? I might ask her to join me as a guest at this wedding ive been invited to or perhaps you need to be going out with someone for a while before you do that either Just ASK her and let her know you're totally fine with her declining. She can make her own choice as to whether she thinks it's uncomfortable or not. I have met a guy's family as early as a month in before, and it did not feel awkward (beyond the normal social awkwardness for introverts meeting new people).
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