wendy101 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 we met on twitter october last year, we started off as friends who liked the same type of news and stuff, then one day he direct-messaged me his email address and then i added him on gmail, afterwards we started to chat privately on google hangouts. he is 10 years older than me. on december 2012, he decided that he liked me a lot. and i never tried online dating and did not know what to react. but i felt we bonded pretty well, so i concurred to the relationship. and to kick up our communication, i suggested skype but he said no, and he wanted pictures instead. i got nervous and afraid, so i sent him a different picture, not my picture. and he sent me his pictures, he said that those were taken from 5 years ago. he looked not all that handsome but i did not mind his looks at all. he asked me if he looked ugly, and i replied you looked fine. on the other hand, he liked my fake picture, A LOT! Three weeks later in january 2013, he told me that he missed me and he was going to masturbate while looking at the fake picture. i felt terrible and immediately i told him that was not my picture and i immediately sent him my real picture. he was furious and told me a liar and a cheater. i apologized and apologized and understood if he'd leave me because of it. and he did leave me. three days later, he messaged me again and said that he forgave me and he still loved me no matter how i look. i was touched and went back to him and we met in real life then and dated for real.... but on december 2nd, 2013, earlier this month, he broke up with me. the reason was, he said, "you cheated me with the fake photo, i cannot trust you fully, therefore i cannot love you whole-heartedly, i just cannot." but i poured in real emotion and lots of time to make this relationship work, i thought what we had was real and i even changed my job to be closer to him because of it. i begged him not to go and apologized again and again about the photo, i was like, "it was a year ago!" but he said coldly, "you lied to me! i cannot trust you!" just like that, my relationship ended. he was my first love and now i am devastated. what should i do? will i ever get over him? i feel i am unable to ever love again! i just can't seem to accept any men but him! thanks for your suggestions! i feel wronged because the fake photo problem was cleared a year ago BUT i did gave him fake photo , so i deserve such "punishment", no? with my new job in a new city and new environment with new coworkers, i must concentrate but i cannot stop thinking about him. he was my first love and i never knew a broken heart feels this painful. will i ever get over him? i can't seem to accept any other men but him. help please!
d0nnivain Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Yes, you were wrong to send the fake photo but for him to hang around for a year then use that as an excuse is BS. No this break up is not your fault. I don't know what his real reason is but you dodged a bullet. Even if he was hanging on to distrust since last year, who needs that? He lied to you then, every day he wasn't making his unhappiness about that issue known.
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