Guardedheart Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 After several days of tears, hurt, and off the chart emotions I told myself last night that I wouldn't cry today. I have been working to keep myself busy and just try to wind down what has been a crazy year and look forward t starting a happier healthier 2014. We had happy times, but I realize that the last 6 months of our 2 year relationship were me trying to always make him happy and him not really doing much to make sure I was happy. When the partial DDay occurred he went into protect himself mode and I was left to pick up all the pieces of my heart. Six months later, I still hear from him after going NC. I wish that he would walk away and leave me alone. He chose his wife, his family, and I am no longer a part of his life. I keep telling myself the next time I hear from him that I am going to communicate to his wife that he is still trying to communicate with me, but I really don't want to be involved anymore. I want to move on from these emotions and not open them up again. Sometimes I wish there was some way that the truth could come out, but I don't want to cause any more damage and I don't honestly think I have the courage to do it. Just rambling a that I needed to get out so that i can make my no years goal for the day. Whew..... This sucks.... So many lessons learned in such a hard way.
BehindTheseHazelEyes Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 I hope that you are doing better today! If you don't want to be involved anymore, stay no contact. If you really want him to never contact you again, tell the W. That will keep him very busy. The best lessons learned are usually the ones we learn the hard way, because you will never forget them. Take care of yourself and focus on what is good in your life. You will heal from this, it just takes time. 1
irresolute Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Two things here. You are flirting with disaster if you're thinking on telling the wife. Why would you do that? And if you don't want him contacting you anymore, block him. Not that difficult. I think you're hurt, but you knew he was married right? Move on and find someone single and available. You should be looking by now, not mourning. 3
Popsicle Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 After several days of tears, hurt, and off the chart emotions I told myself last night that I wouldn't cry today. I have been working to keep myself busy and just try to wind down what has been a crazy year and look forward t starting a happier healthier 2014. We had happy times, but I realize that the last 6 months of our 2 year relationship were me trying to always make him happy and him not really doing much to make sure I was happy. When the partial DDay occurred he went into protect himself mode and I was left to pick up all the pieces of my heart. Six months later, I still hear from him after going NC. I wish that he would walk away and leave me alone. He chose his wife, his family, and I am no longer a part of his life. I keep telling myself the next time I hear from him that I am going to communicate to his wife that he is still trying to communicate with me, but I really don't want to be involved anymore. I want to move on from these emotions and not open them up again. Sometimes I wish there was some way that the truth could come out, but I don't want to cause any more damage and I don't honestly think I have the courage to do it. Just rambling a that I needed to get out so that i can make my no years goal for the day. Whew..... This sucks.... So many lessons learned in such a hard way. How humiliating. Im sorry you went thru that. That was my greatest fear as well and why I ended things before it got there. If he communicates with you again tell him you want it to stop in 2014 and that you will tell his wife if he contacts you again. That should do the trick. 1
WasOtherWoman Posted January 1, 2014 Posted January 1, 2014 Good for you for taking back control! Stay strong and continue to ignore him. 1
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