xaniiu Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Ok so my ex and I broke up a little over a year ago. She immediately got into a new relationship with another chick. We had recently moved and still had 7 months on our lease. I moved out shortly after I found out she was seeing someone else. She texts me once a month I have initiated a text to her maybe 5 times in the year.. every other time we have had contact it has been her contacting me. She tries to find out what I'm doing.. knows I have a new job. Asks me who I hang out with.. etc. I never answer her it's none of her business. Always talks about being friends. I tell her maybe one day but not interested in being her friend and she knows this. She has told me she misses our friendship and blah blah.. has sent me pictures so "I don't forget what she looks like".. all the while still in this relationship. About 2 months ago she tells me she has no friends and no one understands her and she misses me.. I tell ask her how her gf would feel about her texting me, tell her she is being inconsiderate and selfish. She agreed and stopped texting. So about a month goes by and I get a text telling me that she was a horrible gr8 and that she is sorry. I tell her it happens and we both made mistakes and it is what it is. So I wished her merry Xmas. She does the same and wants to send me pics of her kids wants me to come to her house (with the gf for new years).. tell her no I'm ok I have plans.. then she contacts a friend's of mine she met once 2 years ago who is in town for the holiday saying that we all should hang out (but she knows I'm not ok with that).. my friend didn't respond... can someone please tell me what the he'll is going on and what my ex's deal is. I try to keep things cordial and cool if we talk. Why won't she just let it go. She left end of story. I really don't understand it. Any advice or insight is appreciated in advance.
Grumpybutfun Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Place NC boundaries and stick to them. Change numbers and social media usernames if you must. This is your power she is siphoning away each time she contacts you and gets back in your head. Do not let her do that. She made a choice to be with someone else...she doesn't get a say in your life anymore, not even a say on being able to contact you easily. G 1
chris21422 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Wait I don't quite understand. She has a new gf so she is lesbian?
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