winny Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Hello Friends, If you have been/are in long term relationships or been/are married ... What are the characteristic traits in your significant other which told you he/she was relationship material ?
Philosoraptor Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Openness and honesty. They are the basics of trust and without trust there is no relationship. 1
Pretty.in.Pink Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 (edited) Agreed! Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship. I will add: Dependability. If he says he will do something, he always does it. His word is his bond. Just another facet of being trustworthy.Integrity and a set of core values that guide his life and all his actions, even when inconvenient. Again, these relate to being trustworthy. It's easy to do what's right when things are going swimmingly. What matters are your choices when your values collide with the "easy" way out or your "best" interests. That's when your "true" values are revealed. This goes right back to being trustworthy!A solid, long-standing circle of close friends and good family relationships. He has the skill set to relate well to others, to forgive, to empathize and support others, and to build and maintain long-term relationships.Drive and purpose. He's passionate about something...anything...in his life--his job, a hobby, a cause, whatever. He derives meaning and pleasure from something that he spends time doing. Flexibility. Life is full of curve balls. I sought someone who could embrace the adventure with me and roll with the punches. Edited December 30, 2013 by Pretty.in.Pink 2
devilish innocent Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Honest. Caring. Sensitive. Rational. Easy-going. Those are the traits that come to mind off the top of my head. He's just a sweet, considerate guy. It's the same traits that make him a good friend. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Dependability. Honesty. Integrity Good sense of humor Compatible sex drive Intelligence Work ethic / motivation 1
regine_phalange Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 - Gentle; Making me feel cared for, loved, safe. - Fighting fair; Because fights can't be avoided.. At least let them be constructive and non-offensive. - Sense of humour; The only times he makes me cry is when he says a joke that leaves me laughing hard. Also, sharing similar sense of humour means we have similar ways of communicating. - Responsible and dependable; With his obligations. Keeping his word. Knowing that I can depend on him for help. - Valuing family. Supporting family members. Loves spending time with family. - Having a creative hobby that he really loves. It's adorable. - Having great chemistry in sex. Being eager to explore and please me. - Love for life. Enjoying the small things. The small details. The things most people overlook. Just fell in love with my description. 3
GemmaUK Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 - Gentle; Making me feel cared for, loved, safe. - Fighting fair; Because fights can't be avoided.. At least let them be constructive and non-offensive. - Sense of humour; The only times he makes me cry is when he says a joke that leaves me laughing hard. Also, sharing similar sense of humour means we have similar ways of communicating. - Responsible and dependable; With his obligations. Keeping his word. Knowing that I can depend on him for help. - Valuing family. Supporting family members. Loves spending time with family. - Having a creative hobby that he really loves. It's adorable. - Having great chemistry in sex. Being eager to explore and please me. - Love for life. Enjoying the small things. The small details. The things most people overlook. Just fell in love with my description. So did I!!! Along with the responsible I have to say 'taking responsibility for himself, his past and his own actions. Not blaming it all on others. I have yet to find a man in the past 8 years that can do that part. It has to be down to my bad choices as there have been three short relationships and each man was the same and took no responsibility for a numerous amount of things. I am the common denominator in those three short relationships. How I alter it to choose someone who does take responsibility for himself and his actions......... I don't know as yet.
Author winny Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 So did I!!! Along with the responsible I have to say 'taking responsibility for himself, his past and his own actions. Not blaming it all on others. I have yet to find a man in the past 8 years that can do that part. It has to be down to my bad choices as there have been three short relationships and each man was the same and took no responsibility for a numerous amount of things. I am the common denominator in those three short relationships. How I alter it to choose someone who does take responsibility for himself and his actions......... I don't know as yet. I think I know what you mean... I have known guys like that myself... Right now I cannot even imagine how I could like them.. Lol Am planning on going on a date this first weekend of the new year... I just wanted to know what traits to look for...
Pretty.in.Pink Posted December 31, 2013 Posted December 31, 2013 Very smart! Go in knowing what you are looking for. If you don't, it's easy to focus on things that don't matter and overlook those that do. Have fun on your date!
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