iamwalrus Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 hello... i have a good question here that might help all of us guys- (girls please answer) ok... you know how people say that from the moment the girl meets the guy, determines whether not she will ever like him or not? well i have a question about all of the "your not my type" kind of thing... from what i hear, girls pick some guys as the ones they like, and other guys they just like as friends. so tell me.... if a guy, who falls into the category of being "just friends" with a girl, were to hit on her, could you say that she feels the same way as a guy would feel if another guy hit on him? or in other words, could me be hitting on a girl that doesn't feel comfortable around me be like my best friend who's a dude hitting on me? how do girls look at that kinda stuff? i hope you understand what im trying to say... thanx
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 6, 2005 Posted January 6, 2005 My friends would not consider hitting on me, first of all. I guess we should differentiate between: friends in the true sense, and friends in the excuse sense. True friends are just what they sound like. Excuse friends are those people you can't look at in the face and say "I'm not at all attracted to you, and I can never see myself in a romantic relationship with you." These poor schmucks end up getting used and their hearts broken because they mistake the excuse for interest in an actual real friendship. My friend in the true sense would be as likely to hit on me as my brother would: ie, not at all. My friends in the true sense are ones that know and are friends with my husband as well, and know my kid fairly well (a few of them have literally watched her grow up). These guys are like family to me. They are my true friends. No sexual tension, or even a question of it. If a friend in the excuse sense hits on me, then its like being touched by cold, dead, wet eels or something equally gross. My skin will literally crawl if someone that is attracted to me, and I'm not attracted to (or who isn't my type) touches me with some sort of sexual intent. I've only had that happen a couple of times in my younger days before I stopped the 'no fake friends' self rule. If a girl tells you "I just want to be friends" and she has been clear about that - do not hit on her! Very, very bad idea.
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