k100danny Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I would just like to offer some advice to anyone thinking of breaking up with their gf/bf. Think long and hard about your reasons and if it is the right thing to do before you do this. Now don't get me wrong there will always be someone else after you get over each other ect but don't always assume you know what the other person is thinking or feels and don't ever make the decision of what is best for both of you or justify it that way. I recently did this and knew afterwards pretty quickly that i had made a mistake, I tried to make things ok and we carried on talking for the last 6 weeks, i could sense the change and in the end we both had to admit that after what had happened it would be impossible to ever be the same again, she would find it hard to feel that way because i'd broken her heart and in the process caused myself so much pain too. Once you do something it can't be taken back, people emotions are very fragile and wounds take time to heal, the other person relies on you and you are their person of comfort and stability and once you kick that out from under them don't be surprised if they don't want to get back on the stool. If you evaluate the situation and decide breaking up is the best thing you cannot go back on your decision, you have to let them go and move on. Sorry just a little rant but something i learnt the hard way. 7
mutualove Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 You're preaching judaism in vatican.Most people here are dumpees.I'm not going to speak for everyone here but I know exactly what you're talking about and I didn't even dump anyone! When she said it's better if we aren't together I asked it's better for who?She said for me,for you.I asked so you decide what's best for me as well??Well she did.That's basically what dumpers do. I never like it when people make decisions for me. 1
Volthi10 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 You have a good point and so does mutual love...it can be very hard on both sides and both experience different emotions and at different stages. :/
polynomial Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I agree. It's incredibly hard to build the trust again and not to be afraid you'll be dumped again.
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