ldrgirl000 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 My ex broke up with me in September after 2 years together. He is my first serious relationship. Most of the time we were in a LDR. Maybe reality just hit us, we were very different. When he left, he said we would be better off with somebody more similar to our personality. We argued a lot, we were both tired and under pressure. Recently, I started to go out with a few guys and guy friends. But I have mixed feelings about all of them. A guy friend of mine, who also broke up with his girlfriend of 5 years, hang out more with me, he bought me a hug teddy bear, took me out sometimes. I like him a lot as a friend, but i started to imagine things in my head like sex thoughts. So that's why I try to meet him much much less. I met a guy that I liked him from the first sight. He would be the 'perfect guy' as my Ex would described to be with me. He is right in everyway for me (in theory) But we were hot and cold to each other. Sometimes I like him so much. Sometimes he chases me, sometimes i chase him.Then the initial attraction is just gone. One moment I am obsessed over him, other time, I just feel bored. And sometimes, I just miss my ex. We won't get back. I wish he were around spending time with me and my friends and family. Sometimes I wonder what he is doing. I am not even sure if I miss my ex or miss the memories or miss the sex. I feel so confused and unstable.
headinthecloud Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Youre ready to date but only casually. Do not look for another relationship - only have carefree fun - you're not over your ex yet. 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I was asking myself this very question a few weeks back, was forcing myself on dates wondering if I was ready, I would miss the ex and compare him to the date I was with, one false move on their behalf and it would put me straight off.. I really didnt think I was going to meet anyone... until the Saturday night date.... the rest is history ! x I now truly believe that u wont be over it until that special someone walks into your life and believe me they will ! xx Keep putting yourself out there and it will happen sooner rather than later x
True Gent Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I think there is no harm in dating as long as you cut yourself some slack. Be prepared to not just click with people, part of the fun is meeting new people and finding out about them. Dating is just that... Dating, Going to dinner or a movie, spending some time together having fun and chatting. You don't need to commit to anything. If you end up really liking someone then great see how it goes! 3
barky2 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Youre ready to date but only casually. Do not look for another relationship - only have carefree fun - you're not over your ex yet. Couldn't have said it better myself. Just go out and have fun. Date. Keep it out of the bedroom, stay out of houses. Go out for a few hours, get pampered, then go home. Barky 1
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