reddragon588 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Yes, of course. I want everyone to be happy. 3
headinthecloud Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 They are no longer part of my life. I am thankful for what was, even the pain as it taught me to grow, but I dont want them in my future. I don't have any ill will or love for them - just indifference. I just hope that they don't hurt others like they hurt me. Everyone deserves happiness, but it's a choice. I choose to be happy and want the same for others, in general. 5
notthathard Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 As long as I'm happy I don't care/mind if they are happy or not.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I couldnt care either way.... I believe I have hit 'indifference' ! x
True Gent Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 It's too early for me to be anywhere near to wanting her to be happy. She's left me for GIGS why would I want her to be? In time I'd like to just not give a damn what she is. I'm happy that I shared a big chunk of my life with her for all the good we had between us. Other than that I don't want to know or care...
LornaFE Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I guess it has something to do with how she/he treated you. If it was a breakup because you couldn't make sense then wishing the other well is easy. Maybe you are a little angry, but this vanishes very quickly, because you are mainly angry on the fact that it did not work out. People who split up like this can even become freinds after a certain period of time. If he/she lied to you, betrayed you, dumped you like s*** you will need time to forgive. The longer the time you spent together, the more you have invested emotionally the harder to forgive, especially if you feel you have been lied to for years. Maybe you will never really forgive this person, but to have hate inside you is not good, it would eat you up, so over time normally it changes to pity for this person.
fixing Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Well, im human, and still hurt, so i guess at some stage i want my ex to be devastated by some other mans betrayal, then maybe one day she will see the true destruction and pain she caused me. Other than that, i dont wish her any harm, and i dont even care what she does. And, NO, i do not and will never wish her any blessings.
FortunateSon Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 At this point, no, I do not want her to be happy. Maybe, when I get to indifference or find my own happiness I will, but right now I want her to feel the pain I feel presently.
BC1980 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 No, right now I want him to die alone and feel the pain I have felt. I know that is not indifference, but maybe I will get there one day.
barky2 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Anyone who answers no, is still holding resentment and anger. I truly wish mine well, everyone deserves happiness. Barky
k100danny Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I wish all of my ex's happiness but i wouldn't wish pain and sadness on anyone so i see it as the same as this and not that i especially want them to be happy. So i suppose in a way that is kind of indifference. If i found out they were ill or something bad had happened then i would feel bad for them but no more than if it happened to a friend of mine. The only exception to this is my most recent ex who i do really wish a lot of happiness for, i broke up with her and she is honestly the most lovely person to a fault, she does so much for other people and doesnt expect anything in return which she should.
margot13 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 But how could he possibly be happy without me???? Of course I want him to be happy just not yet!!! 1
JDPT Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 My exe's happiness has no bearing on me, it's utterly irrelevant. It may sound bitter but makes sense. I view my ex as a stranger. At times, I inadvertently wish her bad but quickly rectify myself and rid of those thoughts as they are only detrimental to me, so I do it for me and no one else. How she is doing or feeling is quiet honestly none of my business any further. 3
Mariposa10 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Yes, I give him my blessings, not that he cares since he's not religious But yes, I want him to be happy! I wish him nothing but the best!
radiodarcy Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 It doesn't really matter. If he is: great. If he's not: sorry to hear but I hope things get better for him. 1
Amaury Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I did even during the breaking up and after, it wasn't till like 3-4 weeks after that I realized all she had was G.I.G.S and she moved on to other guys so quickly that I lost respect for her because she is nothing but scum. I wish her good luck but part of me wants her to suffer, at this point I could care less about how she is doing.
WYSWYG Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Right now, my ex is high up in the clouds cuz she got the man she lusted for. I'd rather not be angry but I am and so are other friends affected cuz we were all in a social circle - they we're both cheaters! I resent them like that douche who stole my bike!!! 1
margot13 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Right now, my ex is high up in the clouds cuz she got the man she lusted for. I'd rather not be angry but I am and so are other friends affected cuz we were all in a social circle - they we're both cheaters! I resent them like that douche who stole my bike!!! At this point I think the theft of my bike deserves more attention than my ex!!! At least my bike was loyal to me for many years and now it is gone :-(
melodymatters Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I know it's not healthy to carry around anger, but COME ON ! If someone had done these things to your mother, your brother, your niece, you would be pissed off and rightfully so ! I don't even think about my ex's, but if you were to bring up say Pete, who is the closest thing to a demon I have ever encountered, I AM going to have a rush of " I hope his life is HORRIBLE !" and then I'll realize that just by being Pete, he is ALREADY the most miserable, mean spirited, unlovable person around and therefore his life must be horrible. And then I'll forget about him again. Just not going to pretend that people who lied, cheated, stole, were physically, and mentally abusive, cost me thousands of dollars are A-Ok, and I wish them well. I don't. I just don't let it affect my present. 1
seekingpeaceinlove Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Yes, though almost 5 months since BU, I still love and care for my ex. My ex is not the right man for me but he is a good man and I genuinely wish the best for him. There are no hard feelings anymore. I believe he loved me as much as he was capable of during our relationship and I don't regret our experience..the love, joy, and even the pain. It's made me a stronger and better person. 1
LostConfused123 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 The way I feel today. . . NO!!! He threw away a wonderful woman that would have gone out of her way to make him the happiest man alive. . forever!! what a dumb ass!!! then again I am in the anger stage. . . today really angry for some reason. As soon as I pass the anger stage, I'm sure I'll want the best for him and hope he's happy. He really does deserve a beautiful life. I'm almost afraid of feeling indifferent. I hope I always wish him well. Indifference seems so cold and "dead" but I must admit, that would feel SOOOOOOO GOOD right now! 2
TylerDurdenn Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 No, I don't want her to be happy. Sorry. 1
Sparky9 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Yes, I want her to be happy...happiness for her, reflects on our kids. As long as the kids are safe and happy with my ex, and her new bf..I'm quite content. Am I happy about it...no..lol. But I've come to realize it had nothing to do with what I want. I made my bed...now time to lie in it.
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