brokeNlost Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 (edited) Today is about 3 months since BU and I know that it's over and there no more hope but I don't know why I still think about her all through the day and through the night. Why do I all of the sudden broke down and cried today? What is going on with me? Am I not strong enough to overcome this? Edited December 30, 2013 by brokeNlost
btvdts Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Hey it's ok to cry man. Ha, I was at Walmart and walked past the kids toys (she has two little girls,not mine) and it made me remember us going shopping for Xmas last year. I cried..right there at wal mart...it's ok to cry my man. 5
PS.chicago Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Don't worry yourself too much about that. Everyone's ego/confidence takes a huge blow during a b/u especially for dumpees. I'm at about the 3 month mark as well and have those same EXACT thoughts. Think of grieving a loss as a good thing. You're only human, as is your ex. You are not alone. It's part of the healing process. 1
OpheliaSong Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I think it is normal to cry over a failed relationship. After all, we devoted a lot of time to that person and saw a possible future with them. So sorry. Hugs. 2
freebird31 Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 its normal. in the beginning months of the breakup, i tried to push myself to go the gym. at the time, it was the only place that distacted my mind. One day i had gone to the gym, and i suddenyl jsut felt like breaking down. i had to leave the gym and broke down in my car. it just happens. it comes and goes with no notice. in time, it becomes less frequent. and in even more time, the waves of despair completely go away altogether. just takes time.. 2
mea_M Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Cry away. It's a normal human emotion and it releases a whole lot of toxins that are not healthy for the mind, body or soul. Consider it a step toward healing. Mea 3
Heartbroken Eagle Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Don't be afraid to cry. I use to think that I was emotionally tough but this year I have cried a river full of tears. It does get better. I only shed tears now when I'm missing my son. You are not alone.
JDPT Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I've had a few episodes like that one. I recall driving on the highway in excruciating pain and before I knew it tears started rolling down my cheeks. It was so painful but recall feeling just a bit better afterwards. Sometimes you need to just let it out. We can all relate to the excruciating pain, it's a terrible feeling but these waves come and go, it helps you be stronger and wiser for the next one. 1
mendsley Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 Crying is such a positive thing to do right now. We all do it and it's part of the process. Let that shiit out man, but when you're done you're done...let it out and move on! Hang in there man! Peace, Mike! 4
MoooOinkBaaa Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 You're a slow healer, like me. I broke down at three months too. I cried pretty hard that night. Sometimes when you make little steps you look back and realize how far you've come and seeing your ex fading hurts. You're still strong maybe you just have a gentle soul which takes longer to heal. Soon it will all be over.
seekingpeaceinlove Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I read once, "honor your tears for they cleanse your soul." Your pain, sadness and tears are all a part of the healing process. Just as it takes a physical wound time and care to heal, so too does your heart. (BIG HUG) for you.
JDPT Posted December 30, 2013 Posted December 30, 2013 I actually shed a fee tears but not due to my ex but rather for my parents being so supportive. I rather cry over family who have proven themselves over and over as opposed to someone who bolted at the slightest issues. Shows you who honestly cares about you. 1
Author brokeNlost Posted December 31, 2013 Author Posted December 31, 2013 I think I was holding in so much emotion since the breakup and it finally broke. I have never cried so hard before. I used to think that crying is a sign of weakness that why everything I endured have been held in...
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